I’m dating someone who I found out has BPD. It’s been very nice so far - great sex, great convo, fun dates. But apparently this is part of the “stages” of a BPD relationship and might be the beginning of something toxic? Is there a way to have a fairly healthy relationship with someone with BPD? How can you tell how severe someone’s borderline symptoms are? What warning signs should I look out for? So far this feels like a fairly normal new relationship energy so I’m not really sure at what point this turns into a red flag. I really like them so far....but I guess that could also be part of the “pattern”?

A search on the internet seems dismal so far.... I’m seeing a lot of demonizing people with BPD but I’m not sure how accurate that is. I don’t think most people are trying to be malicious when they do things associated with BPD because it’s exactly what it says - a disorder. Are there any nonBPD folks who have a success story about navigating a BPD relationship in a healthy way? Is it possible?