I'll try to make this short. My mom has been "visiting" me since Saturday because she's homeless. This is her cycle of life honestly. I've noticed some of her symptoms have gotten worse and I wanted to see if anyone else can relate and give me any advice?

I have been trying to be understanding since I know that I have the same disorder. Her symptoms just seem so much more severe than mine.

I've noticed she sits around and huffs and puffs out loud A LOT. She sighs out loud, talks to herself, makes loud random noises, and rarely ever listens to anything I say. If it's not something she brought up, good luck keeping her attention.

She doesn't seem to have much consideration for my husband - leaving messes for him to clean up every day and never offers to help. Everything is about her too - like I'm supposed to be catering to her? I've had to reiterate we are still experiencing a national pandemic. Covid is alive and well so we can't just go run all over the city! I feel like she has no comprehension of this...or is she just choosing to not accept it?

My mom was never a solid figure in my life. She left when I was 5 and caused me years and years of trauma. I keep her at a distance and since I hadn't seen her in 2 years, let her come stay for a week. I've cooked for her, taken her shopping, and tried to be a loving daughter. After a few days...I'm tired. I don't want to explode on her and have a BPD war!

ANY advice? Or anyone that can relate, please feel free to comment!! Having these feelings validated also helps.