I've been with my girlfriend for 8 months now. Things moved fast at the start(as expected) and she's been living with me for most of this time. She told me from the get go that she had BPD(she's 21 now and was diagnosed at 18) and I knew a bit about it beforehand so I thought I could handle it.

8 months later, I don't regret that decision but things aren't always easy. We've been through some up and downs but always figure it out. I've had tough times and was unemployed for months on end and she was cheering me up and supporting me through it.

Now that things have reversed and I got back on my feet and she's the one struggling, things are much harder. She has a hard time when feeling down and tends to close down on herself through it. She has told me before that she feels like a burden and that I drag her down when I feel the complete opposite especially since she's helped me out through my hard times.

She's the most wonderful person I've ever met when she's in a good mood and I wish she could always be even though I know that's unrealistic. She's been putting a lot of effort into getting professional help but it keeps dragging on and she's been put on wait lists and denied help for months on end and that depresses her even more.

I would just like to know how to act when she's feeling down and withdraws. She's told me that she feels alone and it breaks my heart. I don't know if I should double down on love/affection/support or give her more space until she feels better.

I would love any of the advice/insight that you guys can give.