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I'm sick and tired of people commenting on my body. I know people are concerned, that's why they comment. But I'm nearly 30 with an unresolved eating disorder. Plain and simple. With BPD, controlling my food intake has been the only way to feel like I'm doing something to keep myself sane. You wouldn't go up to someone and say "wow, you are looking fat... been eating a lot?"
I know for some people, when you're suffering from an eating disorder and someone comments on your weight loss, it's validating. But unfortunately I'm not young and healthy anymore. When people start commenting on my weight loss, that's how I know I'm letting my mental health take control... that's when I know shits going too far. I need to dial back and it's a huge, uncomfortable reminder when someone comes up to me with a pity face and asks me what's going on. This has been happening at work and they won't stop despite it being incredibly unprofessional and disrespectful. At this point I'm just telling them "I guess I've lost so much weight cause I have an eating disorder and I'm depressed" and then they usually start awkwardly laughing and saying "no... no...."
Thank youuu. I appreciate your detailed and empathic response.
When you mentioned that reaching out is so hard with BPD, it resonated with me. But I'm sure you've seen this, sometimes when I reach out, the people question me and ask me why I'm reaching out. "You seem so self aware, how do we help you?" And then I just give up and walk away, struggle through these extreme lows and extreme highs alone.
It's not nice at all :/ it totally creates a ripple effect of negative inner thoughts when someone brings my body up with me. Disrupts a delicate balance I'm trying so hard to maintain.
Fuck I'm sorry you're dealing with that right now :/
Omg yesss to the last part. I've also been obsessing over it too much, it doesn't help when others encourage it.
I know it's actually super embarrassing 😠 😡
I know you can see it through to the other side, please don't give up.
I think to some extent, there are cultural barriers between having the insight to say nothing vs the inclination to comment. My European/arab family for example, will chastise you for not eating, especially in front of others at family gatherings.
Thank you I appreciate these comments, bringing things back down to earth and ty for pointing out my way of thinking.
That fluctuation must be hard to handle mentally :/
I take some vitamins, b complex & iron. I'm guessing vitamin d wouldn't hurt but ty, your response made me giggle
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Wow thanks I appreciate this response, I didn't expect it.