I'm new to my position, not new to the workplace, so I'm familiar with the team and familiar with the managers. I've been promoted to one of the managers in a stressful, transitioning period of time at the company so my training and transitioning into my position has been rough.

This manager gave me a lot of grief when I worked beneath her, and she is giving me a lot of grief now. She's extremely emotionally reactive and emotionally blackmailed me today after I finally sat down with the boss and shared how I felt.

In the meeting about our working relationship she basically flipped, got super defensive and denied a few things, etc etc. Basically just super emotional and a little angry. Not once did she really acknowledge her behavior or lack of communication which is really hurting our working relationship.

Later on, I was offering her help before leaving as I was scheduled to clock out before her. She denied my help when I could see that she was slammed. She then proceeded to complain that I wasn't helping her & that the previous manager helped her "all the time". (The previous manager looked constantly exhausted, over worked and oh yeah, she is pregnant)

She said "your contract ends in a year, I don't know how I'm going to deal with you for a year." She also said "this is not good for my mental health" referring to my complaint to our boss. As if she hadn't caused me any sort of mental and emotional stress over the past 2 years. She begged me to switch shifts with her which she said that was a "favor meant for the previous manager" but unfortunately when I was offered a job, she decided to stay on the weekend as it was preferable for her. So I have no idea what the truth behind that is.

It sucks cause like she's complaining about ME complaining about her and I said "co-manager, I went to boss because I felt like nothing happened after we talked. I shared my feelings with you and continued to feel unheard. I felt like I needed to tell boss because nothing got better" all she said was "that's fine, you can go to boss for every little thing, I don't care" ummmm ok?

I spoke to her before going to our boss. I put effort into putting my BPD aside, sensibly sharing my feelings as a new manager alongside her and she did nothing. This is why I went to our boss, but I feared retaliation which is now, what I will be facing.

It sucks to be in this position where... I regret taking this to our boss because nothing will change and now she's just going to treat me much worse. I don't know how to move forward. Thankfully I only work 2 days a week with her.

I appreciate you reading my vent, if you do.