Hi hi! First time posting here. My (24F) partner/fp (22M) and I broke up March earlier this year and got back together July. We have a generally healthy relationship dynamic, I have BPD and he has CPTSD, for some context.

How do y’all deal with retroactive jealousy? I know he had a small fling with someone whilst we were apart (I did as well if that’s relevant). I can’t stop thinking about her/them together. It’s ridiculous. How do y’all cope and handle the intrusive urges to stalk social media, download data, monitor search history, ask questions I know I won’t enjoy the answer to, etc?

Obviously we are already having discussions about this and are working through our jealousies as healthily as possible, but I’m more asking for tips on how to regulate myself when I stuck in a loop of jealousy/insecurity so I don’t continuously go to him every time this feeling pops up!

Thank you in advance wonderful humans <3