I don’t get it. What kind of society is this?? I used to get people who said they were tired of people not putting in the effort for people who don’t feel the same way. But in reality the more I see it, those people are being entirely hypocritical. I’ve either been in or witnessed dozens of one sided friendships where someone always has to do the work and then other is doing the bare minimum. The people I used to see saying put in more effort are the people I was foolish enough to try and befriend until I would spend days, weeks, even months realizing I’m putting in ALL the effort to be this person’s friend and they do not engage with me or reciprocate, or do anything that would make me feel good for the sake of making me feel good unless I prompted it in which that’s kind of fucked. You only allow me the privilege of feeling good after I’ve made you happy?

I don’t see friendships where people have a mutual respect for each other, I see one person always benefitting more than the other when friendships shouldn’t even be measured by who is benefiting more being friends should be the benefit of having that person in your life!!