All of your feelings are valid because you are feeling them. No ifs, buts, or ors. Your feelings are valid. Period.

Our reactions may be perceived as overly strong, but they are reasonable considering the strength of our emotions.

As with neurotypicals, it's important for us (pwbpd) to take a breath and check in with our feelings before responding. And if that isn't possible, move to a different area to calm our nervous systems and bring back our logic centres using whichever healthy coping techniques work for us. Unfortunately for us (pwbpd), it's harder to do this as it's a skill that we need to build up stronger than the average person would need to due to how strongly we feel emotions.

Anyone who uses a diagnosis against a person due to the symptoms (instead of an explanation as to why they need more leeway and understanding) isn't a supportive person. Like, is it ok to call a person with ADHD lazy because they won't do things when you want them to or forgetful/not caring because they can't remember something that you told them or they're running late? Absolutely not! So why would it be ok to use that same logic against someone with BPD? Or any mental/physical health issue?