I (23) always tell my husband (40) the things that triggers me before we go to a social event with friends. We both know exactly what triggers me and he’s always willing to help me, we make plans to avoid conflicts and all of that. Today we went to a small party in a friends house, and this girl showed up talking about her boob job to him, just the two of them talking about it, and he was like “oh how long it will take to recover?”. He was making questions and interacting with her in that conversation, I felt so awkward and that triggered the hell out of me. First thing he did when we got to the party was complementing her sweater. Then he sat down all cozy next to her (he said he didn’t notice that she was next to him) I called him in a separate room and said that we had a plan/deal and he promised me he would be careful to not trigger me, he said that what he did was not a big deal and said that I was making such a big deal of it. For me, he failed in his promise and I can’t trust him in social events anymore. I just want to not hang out with him at all. It hurts me so much. Specially about this girl because she’s single and always wearing very sexy clothes. He says he doesn’t want to be rude with her. Me as woman, I need to be rude with so many men who approach me and I don’t care if I have to be rude when needed, or if I don’t complement a men’s sweater, it doesn’t mean I being mean in my opinion. I feel so hurt and just want to cry and leave. This affects me so much. Does anyone else relate to this?