I see a lot of posts on here that are written by people who seem to really struggle with the idea of recovery and their can't see their lives improving without intense and lengthy psychological assistance. So for the people who think that splitting will always be an inevitable occurence, or fear they'll always have or need a Favourite Person, I want to share that things can get better. Relationships with others don't have to be filled with fear and scary what-if's. You can learn to be accepting of the person you are. There will come a time where you can be honest about how you feel and with time you'll learn a way of communicating that doesn't backfire on you. You can achieve emotional balance and control of your thoughts.

Being diagnosed with BPD doesn't define you or who you are forever. The things that make you different from other people are worth embracing. Out there in the world are good people who can love every inch of you and you can learn to trust again. The hardest part will always be in looking after yourself but I promise that you will one day care about yourself the way you care so deeply about others. You can have friends and lovers and have it be healthy for everyone. Despite being given a disadvantage there is always room to positively adapt.

I haven't had DBT or any specific treatment for my BPD, PTSD or disociative issues. That being said I have overcome a lot of my own difficulties, especially my BPD. Yes I still need treatment and am currently on disability for my illness but I wanted to share that it's possible to live with minimal symptoms. Things have been very manageable and I have learned to accept a lot about myself and my life. I've got a healthy relationship that is stable and satisfies me deeply, and has lasted a long time. My life though challenging at times is somewhere I want live and something I want to keep working on.

For a long long time I thought what I had could only be something that would exist in my fantasies. I have come here today to try and show you that no matter how difficult or severe your BPD is, there is still hope for you. Things absolutely do get better and I promise that all of the dark questions you have like "will i always be empty" or "will anyone really love me" can be answered in the end. Things can just get better. It may take time and some experience but life won't always be some horrible, unending series of disappointments and traumas. It's okay to struggle but please know that you won't always be the same way. Keep working on yourself and one day you'll be able to stand in the light. I promise you won't suffer forever - even if it's all you've known so far. This life is for you so please keep living in it.