So I broke up with my ex 4 months ago after 6 years together. Relationship was a roller coaster and I didn’t know what was going on tbh, so I ended things. She’s now been diagnosed with EUPD/BPD so it was totally unknown to us both while together. Had I known about the EUPD I would never have left, I view it the same as if she got paralysed, I wouldn’t just leave because of that. We’ve met up a few times and we talk every day pretty much now, and have had sex once. I’ve told her I’d like to try again, and start out dating and take it slow. She naturally weary now as I left her. She is in treatment/therapy. I’m just looking for some advice on how to approach the situation. She isn’t totally against it but she’s scared and thinking about worst case scenarios. I know I will have triggered abandonment issues by leaving. I’m taking the fact we’re talking etc as a really good sign. I’ve done lots of research on EUPD, and understand the pain and struggle she can be in. I’m under no illusion that our relationship may be a rollercoaster at times, due to both of us and not just because she has EUPD. I’m just looking for any of you females advice with EUPD if you’ve been in a similar situation. Do I need to reassure her I won’t ever leave unless it’s something very drastic? And things like that. I don’t want to manipulate her into it, it’s of course her own choice. It’s more about how I build the trust back and reassure her etc. sorry how this comes across, I’m a bit rambly today.