This person currently has no idea that I’ve been distraught over our friendship for the past couple of days.

I truly don’t believe a compromise is possible. I have tried communicating my grievances with this person before (most times when I am not emotionally charged) and he reacts defensively, and never changes. It’s evident he does not prioritise the importance of communication and boundaries.

On the other hand, I understand that a big part of my BPD is expecting too much from my friendships. And I’m sure some of the things I’m upset about are things that are unreasonable to expect given our level of friendship. Part of this makes me want to avoid communicating altogether, because I’m embarrassed to share the things I’m upset about with him. And I know that there is a high chance my friend will become dismissive to my vulnerabilities, which will only reinforce my fear of communication.

Ultimately, I think we are both too emotionally immature to handle this friendship. I want to end it in the most graceful way possible. A couple days ago I wrote a very emotionally charged message detailing my grievances one by one. I was going to send it to him and then block him immediately after, so that I could get it off my chest without dealing with any potential dismissiveness and embarrassment. But now that I’ve cooled down a bit I can see that’s an irresponsible way to handle this.

If anybody has any strategies on how to end this friendship like a healthy neurotypical would, that would be highly appreciated.