As the title suggests. I've started DBT lately and it's changed my life with how well I've been able to manage my BPD, however one trigger always seems to undo everything and that's family. My family have stated that I shouldn't expect anything simply because I'm family, as that's just a label. I shouldn't expect to be heard or listened to either simply because we're family. I've been told that no one has to do anything for me, and that's true I shouldn't have expectations or believe that's the way things "should be", because that's wanting things to be different than how they actually are and that's not radical acceptance.

I'm basically just confused as to what to do an expect from life. I thought family would help but like I said, I've been told not to expect anything. That family is just a label and it happens in other families as well. I can't tell whether it's my BPD and want for validation that's making me resent this attitude, or that it's actually how things should be. I don't know what to do.