I'm in a job with high end of year targets and where its highly competitive amongst peers; we're expected to exceed in our core role AND do a bunch of extra initiatives and mentoring others etc. This is even without the end goal being a promotion - it's just expected under the guise of "personal development" and is factored into our KPOs. You can't just do your job. It seems most people find this acceptable or at most, mildly challenging. I find it incredibly difficult to manage, largely due to my BPD and neurodiversity.

This year particularly I'm really struggling with getting everything done and am currently at crisis point, because I'm very behind on several key tasks. I'm breaking down crying every day, I'm physically very unwell which the Dr believes to be down to stress, I feel so overwhelmed and I can't manage my personal life at all because I have no emotional capacity left for it. All the resilience I built up over the years in therapy has gone out the window.

How do you cope? Are there things you do to manage your workload and prevent build up of stress? Do you let it go when it looks like you won't hit targets, even if it means potentially difficult conversations with your manager?

Everyone keeps telling me my mental health is more important, to just accept when I might not be able to do everything/hit targets and take time off when I need it. But they're not the ones who have to deal with the fallout of always being the team member who needs accommodations or time off, or being the only one who won't make goal. It's crushing being so starkly reminded that you're not the same as everyone else and you'll be viewed as incompetent as a result.

How do you cope with the pressure of pushing through and/or accepting defeat and the consequences of that?