I’m enraged in relationships when my partner doesn’t put me first . I won’t date people with kids because I truly would flip if they picked them over me, which is crazy so i just avoid it. However, everything has become avoidance as a goal to avoid subjecting others to my bad reactions. however it is making me lonely , but it’s also safer. I don’t hurt anyone.

How do i fix this when sometimes I feel like I just haven’t met loyal and devoted people vs I need to adjust to settle. Is it unrealistic to have someone love you in “you’re my person way”. Where it’s a less dramatic but still as solid us against the world? Im okay if they have a life and friends, but I want everyone to understand that we come first . How irrational is this?