My boyfriend and I are 5-months in. We had a really healthy and strong 3 months and then I burnt out from life stress (job and home). I am just getting my energy back now. I also just moved back to the city (and closer to him) and we had so many plans but now it’s like I have zero interest in them. I am trying to get into healthy routine: cutting a dependency to alcohol, making normal work from home hours, working out again, incorporating journalling and self care tasks that make me feel good.

This always happens to me in every relationship. It’s going amazing and then suddenly i’m like — I don’t know if I really like you, I have commitment issues, I need to leave, everything he does just annoys me now.

I realize this is normal in relationships and it’s a part of growth. I just need to get better with managing my thoughts and preventing them from making me choose impulsive and hurtful decisions.

Does anyone have resources or advice for creating healthy relationships with BPD. I asked for space and he has no problem giving it to me but I just need to understand what I’m doing wrong. I just want to run but in honesty, he is a great partner and is 100% there for me. How does one keep a ‘spark’ going with BPD.