my partner was having self-harm urges last night and I was there to comfort them but something that sticks out to me is “like emotionally, i feel like i'm having self harm urges but its nothing related to you at all. Like they went away for a bit when i was working but when i got home they just came back” I guess him saying it’s not related to me at all. I guess apart of me wonders why he said that ? maybe i'm overthinking, but i'm not sure. Typing this all out makes me feel like a bad a partner, because i should be thinking more how i can be there for him

i don't know if anymore information would help, but my partner did some research on like bpd for males and he told me he used to split pretty badly when he was younger, especially when he would self harm it just makes me worry about my relationship a bit

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