once i learned that people with BPD can severely struggle with their gender and sexuality due to having no sense of identity, i knew that was me. basically my entire life, ive been switching back and forth between "im a woman, im a man, im neither, im a man" and repeat. so i know for sure that my desire to transition to male was based in my BPD. i detransitioned, not because i hated living as a trans man or anything, but because i just felt delusional and mentally ill and i never truly felt like a man, i just felt like i had a mental disorder that i should probably try to solve first, and that mental illnss turned out to be BPD.

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my main BPD symptoms:
-constant feeling of no identity and not knowing who i am (transitioning somehow fixed this, i felt sure of my identity as a trans man)
-idolizing certain people and hating everyone else- black and white thinking towards people (as a trans guy i stopped idolizing people and i think i started to idolize myself instead. in terms of hating people, i didnt hate people as much)
-CONSTANT feeling of boredom and isolation no matter what acticity youre doing (as a trans man i felt content and not bored and enjoyed my own company)

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-paranoid about being abandoned (as a trans man i didnt care if people betrayed me because i enjoyed my own company)

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basically all the symptoms went away while living as a trans man and id like to know why, and see if anyone else experienced this