My husband and I are playfully competitive and after rolling with him, I wonder how much fun it would be to tap him out. For reference, I am a new, female white belt with my first stripe after almost a year of training. I am 5.7 170ish lbs but I am solid. I did powerlifting so I have still maintained a heavy squat. Good leg strength.

Skill wise, I am at the stage where it is slowly starting to come together but only in the most basic techniques. It is very common for me to lose to white belt men who are weaker than me because male strength feels very different. I am starting to submit some brand new guys recently as it gives me a sense of accomplishment that okay I am getting somewhere.

Husband? Blue belt. 5.10, 215 lbs and all muscle! Since he outmuscles almost everyone there, higher belts prefer to roll with him. He gives purple belt dudes a tough time but they eventually get him. I was watching him roll with a brown belt who was smaller in size, Id say 150 lbs and he gave him a run for his money. The brown belt was so fluid and smooth but my husband has this clumsy strength with which he was keeping him pressed down. They went for quite some time and I was surprised how is he lasting so long against this brown belt, who was not going easy on him either. Then the brown belt swept him and when he was on his back, it was like giant turtle ... lol. Then the brown belt got him with an arm bar.

It was fun to watch that because it proved to me that ultimately skill will conquer strength. It made me think that if I was the same skill level as that male brown belt was, and husband was the skill lever where he is, would I be able to submit him?  When I roll with my husband then I am going 110% but he holds back. When he decides that its over, then its over no matter what position I am in.

Girls ... I would really really enjoy submitting him. If there is one man in the world that I would really enjoy submitting it is my bear. With all your experience do you think it is realistic or pure fantasy?