So to start, I’m 5’1 and about 108lbs. I have about 5 years of body building experience. So I’m not very weak, just small. Usually there aren’t many people to roll with that are my size. Generally I’m the only female with the closest person to my weight being my husband who is 6’0 and 220lbs. When they’re are people closer to my size they’re all blue or purple belts. Today we actually had people my size. I got to roll with a blue belt and then the spazzy white belt kid. I don’t want to sound like I have a huge ego, but I don’t think I’m bad at all. Im small but I’ve managed to hold my own with the bigger dudes and the several smaller blue belt guys I’ve gotten to roll with. Today we had two new kids who came in from the kids class. I think this kid was around 16-17 maybe. He’s a small kid. Maybe a little bit larger than me. My coach paired up this roll. Before the roll my coach told me to “put him in his place”. This kid went 110% the whole time. It felt like he was just panicking the whole time. He was not watching where his limbs were moving, using full strength the entire time, nothing he was doing was predictable. Basically the whole time I kept him locked in my guard and waited for him to make a mistake. I got him in an arm bar and two triangles. At the end he was locked in my guard and I was keeping his head to my chest. I wasn’t sure what to do because I honestly thought I was gonna end up hurt if I let him move. Im not even sure how to describe what happened. He tried to brute strength slam me. Ended up landing with his full force, his hip on to my ankle and foot. I think he was getting frustrated being man handled by a small female. I’m not even sure what advice I’m asking for. I don’t really want to roll with him again but both my husband and coach are telling me to roll with him over and over again to “show him”? Idk. They’re not telling me to beat up this kid to make him feel bad. They think I’m a good person to help teach him that he doesn’t need to go this hard. I don’t really know what to do. My ankle hurts. I have autism so I didn’t even know how to communicate that he needs to calm down. When I stopped the roll I just said my leg got caught. He apologized and I said “no worries” with a smile and walked away.