Let me explain. I am 42 and recently discovered kink and bdsm. I am certain I am a Submissive. I am essentially a "virgin" to all this. I have never had a single experience. I want to and have been trying to find a domme/Mistress to show me all there is to experience.

It has been so frustrating and all I get are messages from men. I feel like dominant women are a diamond in the rough. So hard to find a Sapphic one.

I am pretty much at the point where I'm thinking maybe it should be left as just a fantasy. Add to that I'm a bbw and I know that's not everyone's cup of tea. Since I truly don't know what I'm missing, maybe I should just go back to vanilla dating.