I AM LOOKING FOR FEMALE SUBMISSIVES ONLY.
BDSM is a beautiful dynamic. It is defined, structured, powerful and fosters intimacy and communication in a way that "normal" relationships simply can't.
Currently in school at UT to become a licensed therapist, but I have done many things in my life. I'm a black belt in Shotokan Karate, have made a short film, tutored writing, and was a professional gamer for 6 years. The best way to sum me up, I think, is that I love death metal and Disney songs. I appreciate people who are able to laugh at themselves and are low drama.
I have 10 years experience in the lifestyle and am married to my wonderful 24/7 slave (25F) who I trained from the ground up and now lives in service of male Authority. She will always be my primary partner, but we have decided recently that it would appeal to both of us for me to train a 2nd slut in our area. My slave would be involved in some of it, other parts she would not be. We are in Toledo, Ohio, so NW Ohio/Southern Michigan/Detroit area preferred :).
We aren't looking for a poly 3rd, but someone to build an intimate connection within the space of this lifestyle, but outside of a romantic space, if that makes sense. Respect, not romance, I guess?
I live this lifestyle. It is not a hobby or a dalliance for me. I believe in it and expect the same dedication from whoever I am training. I also believe wholly in a foundation of communication, trust, equality and partnership. Without it, resentment, anger, fear and worse can build. BDSM partners are still partners. It is merely a different way of engaging in and expressing partnership.
This is an intense lifestyle and it certainly isn't for everyone. It is important to be upfront about our desires right away. I train submissives in the idea of male Authority - that the submissive is beneath all men (consensually, of course) and is eager to be trained to serve them.
The way that I train is rooted in what I call The Principles:
Obedience
Respect
Passion
Dedication
Subsets of these are Craving and Gratitude, equally as important but harder to place.
Every slut needs different approaches in training, but no matter how I am training you, it is rooted in these Principles.
I train with strict rules, firm discipline, harsh tone and physical, verbal and mental degradation. I don't engage in these things simply because they get me off. I think that is an incredibly surface level reason to engage in any 24/7 practice. Degradation rips open the rawest fibers of a submissive soul, priming it to be re-written by Authority. Subspace brought about and maintained by degradation is more powerful and a much more effective training environment. I also believe heavily in mental training. The sexual aspects of service are important, of course, but a slut cannot truly live this lifestyle until she is properly mentally programmed.
Despite this harshness, I always take care of a submissive. Your needs, feelings, boundaries, thoughts and interests are important to me. I am not the type of Dom that forces my submissive into my ways of thinking. That is dangerous and borderline abusive. I love engaging conversations, provided the framework of the Principles is observed.
Experienced preferred, but I am happy to train a brand-new eager submissive as well. Age, race and body type are of no concern to me. I have trained sluts across the board. All I care about is that you are a self-assured, truly, deeply submissive soul that craves to serve.
Please always remember that it will take quite a bit of getting to know each other before we can really start engaging in anything. It's important to build that comfort, trust and bond necessary to give all of yourself to someone.
I've really only scratched the surface of how I live this lifestyle, so feel free to message me about anything and everything!
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