During the last year or so, I’ve had some time to figure out a bit more of what I’m looking for going forward. I don’t think a single dynamic would fit me well. I like variety and changing things up on occasion; this is true in both my personal and professional life.

In my personal life I enjoy a super lazy day in bed with little activity beyond eating, relaxing, and catching up on sleep; but I also enjoy busy days outdoors hiking and seeing the sights; a day at a Disney park is also always welcome too. The busy days at work where I’m there from 8am-11pm can be fun and challenging, and it makes those relaxing days much more rewarding when I get them.

I enjoy going out to eat at fancy restaurants just as much as grabbing a super messy burger from In-N-Out; and I also enjoy the simple bowl of cereal at home, or the full “thanksgiving dinner” spread.

Variety is what keeps my life fun and interesting. Being on the go is great, but I know when I need to live in the moment and enjoy what’s happening in front of my eyes too. I’ve been able to find a decent balance.

In a vanilla sense, I want something long term with someone else. Marriage and the like is the plan.

I have many “vanilla” interests. Eating, cooking, baking, hiking, camping, museums, movies (I have a home theatre), building things, legos, and travel. I tend to be more of a spontaneous person, but I can plan things when/if the situation warrants it. I consider myself a nerdy/geeky type. Star Wars and Harry Potter are some of my favorites.

I am fairly introverted. It can take a bit to get to know me and I am fairly quiet with people I just meet. I don’t feel the need to talk just for the sake of talking. I’m fine sitting in silence and just enjoying one another’s company. That being said, I have been told I am worth the effort to get to know. Once I feel more comfortable around someone I can be quite witty/sarcastic.

I am fairly logical. I rarely act on things solely due to emotion. My decisions tend to be fairly calculated and I weigh my options. Even my spontaneous moments were thought out enough to make sense.

Beyond the vanilla foundation for who I am, I have been dabbling in BDSM for well over 10 years at this point. I feel that I am a mix of many roles and having that variety makes me who I am. I find myself to be a bit of a Daddy, brat tamer, Rigger, Sadist and Master.

It all started when I was young and I enjoyed paying “cops and robbers” and using handcuffs on someone else. I wasn’t sure what I liked about it, but it just felt right.

As I got older, I discovered porn, and bdsm was begging to be a bit more mainstream/in the public eye. It felt like the planets were beginning to align.

The rigger side of me comes from my background as a Eacgle Scout. I enjoyed the rope and knots we had to learn, and its fun using rope in other ways to keep someone restrained. I tend to be a bit more utilitarian when I do my ties, but putting the Time into making something look nice is possible too.

I have a bit of a soft spot for brats. I love the challenge they can present. The banter back and forth. The glances. Them trying to bribe you to get out of a punishment.The threat of a sound spanking if they don’t behave. I love it all…which brings me to my Sadistic side.

I enjoy the feeling of warm ass with raised skin. The sound of a paddle. The wimpier someone makes as they anticipate the next stroke of a cane. Watching them squirm and try to get away while they’re over your lap. I tend to favor floggers, canes, and paddles as implements. Switching it up and keeping someone guessing is my styles. Bruises are a fun trophy of a job well done.

Even though I have sadistic tendencies, I am still very much a daddy at heart. I don’t like hurting people for the sake of hurting people. My goal is to be happy and to make others happy. I like being there for people and being that solid foundation they may be looking for in their life; That person you can go to with any problem and they will help you solve it. That person you can cuddle up with at the end of the night and fall asleep in their arms.

The Master side of me enjoys people making my life easier and doing things for me. I’d say this is the part of me that isn’t well developed, but something I want to expand on as time goes on. Finding someone who can be a bit of a service sub would be ideal; and I’d consider someone solely for this role.

So, I want to find someone for a long term relationship. Is it going to happen overnight? No. Am I open to play and shorter term relationships in the meantime? Absolutely. Everything takes time to develop and I prefer not to force something that doesn’t feel right. You’ve got to start somewhere and let things develop naturally.

I’m sure there’s plenty more I can cover, but this is a good start.