Hi there!
My name is Nick, 32 years old and i live in Western Europe (CET). I am a business professional, very serious about what I do, but outside of that, kink has become more and more important for me. Next to my vanilla lifestyle, I have had an interest in bdsm for the last 8 years, both online and in person. Besides that, I like to play sports, meeting up with friends, listening to music, hiking and travelling.
I am 6'1 (185cm), have dark hair, dark brown eyes, and a slightly muscular body type.
I consider myself a (daddy) Dom, because not only do I like to own and control my sub, but i care about her too. In my past experience I have had a few long-term subs, and (unfortunately) some short-term subs as well (ghosters). For the past 4 years, I have also acquired more real-life experience. For now, I am mostly looking for online, since most of you are located far away, but I am open to something in real life. Ideally we would be to start online and eventually meet each other. If you are from Western Europe too, this will make it easier, but I will not rule out subs from other continents.
What i’m looking for
I am looking for a female sub for a serious, but part-time relationship. I am not interested in 24/7 control, I understand that your own private/vanilla life is a lot more important than this kinky lifestyle.
I would prefer someone whose time zone is not too far away from me, but from previous experience I have learnt that a lot is possible, even when you are 6-9 hours apart, as long as you are both willing and devoted. It might require a bit of flexibility though.
I’m looking for someone who, in time, after trust and respect is earned, wants to serve me in anyway possible (within limits), just because she wants to make her dom happy, being turned on in the process. Of course, your limits are always respected. I should also mention I prefer someone with a slim to normal body type.
I would like to talk and play with you regularly, but this can be discussed. I am interested in something serious, but I am up for something casual as well, depending on your availability and needs. Besides kink, I like to have non-kink related conversations as well. A good sense of humour is quite important for me.
You will need to be able to verify yourself. I will do the same. We will start our conversation on here, but can move to kik/discord/skype/similar after.
Communication
Communication is really, really important in a dom/sub-relationship. I really want to know what you like or don’t, and what’s going through your mind. Everything can be discussed. If you’re not comfortable about something, I wanna know about it. I will never let you do something which you are really not comfortable about or something that includes great risks (public, family, etc). Aftercare is also really important. More important for me to know is what you need in this relationship, and before, during and after sessions.
Also, it’s quite normal for us, with busy schedules, to not always have time for this kind of play. I absolutely understand it if you’re not able to talk/play for days or even weeks, but just let me know it. I have had some subs in the past who, out of nowhere, just disappeared without saying anything. That is just a shame and a waste of my time. Once again, everything can be discussed, just tell me. Ghosting, however, is unacceptable.
Kinks
It's important to me that our kinks (at least some what) match. The list below contains some of my favourite kinks. We can always discuss likes, dislikes and limits.
My main kinks:
- Orgasm control
- Tease and denial
- (light) humiliation
- Edging
- Nipple play
- Clothing control
- Anal
- Impact play
- Choking
- Aftercare
Limits
The following list contains (among others) a few (standard) things we will never do:
Permanent damage, scars/marks, heavy/extreme pain, scat, blood, needles, illegal, blackmail, dangerous; anything filthy, with too great risks or dangerous (the standard list).
The dynamic
I prefer regular, (almost) daily contact via messaging, combined with a small set of rules. On top of that, regular live calls, depending on both our schedules, and weekly tasks.
I don't require you to do live audio/video calls from the start. And you will be seeing me as well (unless you like the mistery and therefore prefer not to)! You are also allowed to hide your face when we eventually do video calls. I understand building trust takes time.
I understand that some subs prefer text over video calls, but for me the interactive part in a video call is very important, where I can direct you in detailed ways and respond to your actions directly. So, no waiting on either side. I highly prefer this over giving you tasks, waiting until you do them and report to me, before being able to give you the next task. I get that for some subs this can be too much to start however, and I respect that.
Application
Are you intrigued by what you read above? Then feel free to contact me via a private message and answer the questions below. From there, we can communicate via Skype, kik or e-mail.
- Name, gender, age
- Location/time zone
- Your likes/dislikes/limits
- What kind of sub do you consider myself?
- Why would you like to become my sub?
- Body appearance/type
- What did you like most about my ad?
Bonus points for including a picture or telling me about your experience so far.
If you have any questions yourself, feel free to ask.
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