What I’m looking for

I’d prefer something meaningful, but I’m also open to casual play. I like to start slow, building on common interests and attraction rather than rushing into to a 24/7 dynamic. I’d also like to get to know you first as a person before delving into anything serious, play or anything more.

Appearances don’t matter as much to me as you having a fulfilling life outside of kink including hobbies, friends, and your own ambitions - Please just show that you have a life outside kink. I’m more comfortable with someone in the 20-30 age range, but this isn’t as much of a focus for the right personality.

I’d prefer if we are both in Australia, in particular Sydney or NSW South Coast, as that allows for ease of communication and possibility of meeting face to face. Please no one from Europe and America, as the timezones would be too complex and short to work with long term.

About me (Vanilla)

I’m a 23 year old male living on the South Coast of NSW, Australia, about 2-2.5 hours away from Sydney.

Appearance-wise, I am a Caucasian male (6'2"-ish, 115kg chubby body type) dark hair. I'm looking to lose weight for my own sanity and to get more fit for sport. I’m happy to provide SFW photos once we have had time to speak and get to know each other after a decent period of time. I do not expect those who reply to send one of themselves straight away either.

Personality-wise, I tend to be seen as blunt but honest in how I convey my opinions and concerns. Once I’m more comfortable, I am friendly, loyal, kind, and funny. However, due to being slow in trusting people and not having any substantial relationship experience, I will need someone patient and understanding.

Hobbies

• Gaming (Happy to talk and play with you if you are into it as well)
• Sci-Fi and Fantasy (love Doctor Who and Star Trek!)
• Anime/Manga
• Travelling (which I try to do a lot around Australia and hoping to do some overseas, when borders reopen and travel is possible)
• Sport (I play and watch Cricket and AFL)

Happy to discuss these with people in greater detail.

Kink Background

I’m still learning and open to a variety of new experiences. I consider myself a Soft Switch, but I have more submissive tendencies than dominant, at least within play - still exploring. I don't have any topping experience, but would like to learn and develop with people I can trust.

Dominant Interests

• Bondage ♡
• Impact
• Anal Play ♡
• Nurturing and Pampering ♡
• Copious Amounts of Aftercare (Cuddling and soothing, plus looking after their needs) ♡
• Body Worship (As a worshiper of the sub, instead of the sub worshipping me) ♡
• Brat Tamer
• Sensory Play (To compliment other forms of play, like Bondage and Impact) ♡
• Orgasm Control, Edging, Denial and Forced Orgasms ♡
• Marking (Lipstick, Body Writing, Bites)
• Voyeurism and Selective Exhibitionism

Submissive Interests

• Bondage ♡
• Body Worship ♡
• Light Impact
• Anal Play ♡
• Sensory Play ♡
• Wax
• Orgasm Control, Edging and Denial (Denial for shorter periods of time) ♡
• Marking (Lipstick, Body Writing, Bites) ♡
• Selective Exhibitionism (Not good around anyone, but more open with known and trusted people to show off)

♡ = Main Likes.

Limits

Please find below a series of my current soft and hard limits. I am happy to discuss these with people, to go into further detail. These may also develop as I become more experienced with kink, so the list below may not end up being complete.

Soft Limits

• Medium to Heavy Impact (Discuss levels and pain tolerances before doing any).
• Some forms of Pet Play (Happy to try out some and see what it is like, but not a big interest of mine)
• Chastity Play (Happy to do it for short periods of time, but with discussion and nothing long term: >1 Month)
• DD/lg MD/lb Play (I am fine with being a nurturing figure, or someone being nurtured, but I am not into the age regression aspect of this style of play)
• Edge Play, such as Knife Play and Breath Play (Only after significant time and experience with each other and when both parties are comfortable doing so. Before that, this is a Hard Limit)
• Consensual Non-Consent (This is much more on the border between soft and hard limits, but this would only be with trusted people and after a period of time with play, similar to Edge Play)

Hard Limits

• Feminisation
• Forced Bi
• Scat
• Golden Showers
• Blood Play
• Heavy Public Humiliation (Happy to discuss where the lines are)
• Cuckolding
• Needle Play

If you are interested, please send me a chat message with some details about you and something that stood out in my personal.

I am happy to talk on other platforms, such as Discord, but would prefer to set up an initial conversation here first.

Looking forward to talking with people and seeing where things go!