Hey, and thanks for reading. Im 29, male, queer/gender fluid, polyamorous, and a switch, but am currently desiring a relationship where I am exclusively dominant. I’m 5’9, have long hair, a mustache, a bunch of piercings, and tend to give off an alt/hippie/1970’s Daddy-type style and vibe. I am fully vaccinated.

I am seeking connection with a likeminded person, whether in the form of play partners, a more formalized D/s dynamic, or possibly a longer term, committed relationship down the road if things develop in that direction. I’m open to traveling within NYC and can host in north Brooklyn, a few subway stops from Manhattan. I am not interested in a long distance or online dynamic.

I would like to connect with someone who is 420 friendly (its okay if you don’t personally partake), OK with/interested in genital piercings (I have multiple), and is desiring at least some level of power exchange. If you aren’t on board for all three of these things I am not the person for you and I wish you all the best of luck on your journey to find someone compatible!

I would like to play with someone who is familiar with their basic interests and has some experience. It is important to me that you have at least a 101 level knowledge of kink, such as being able to speak about models of consent, safe words, aftercare, etc. Please know the difference between bottoming and submitting.

Some of my interest include (but are not limited to): power exchange, service, psychological play, body worship, rituals and energy work, hypnosis, humiliation and degradation, predicament play, impact play, role play, some bondage (I’m not a rope top), medical play, sounding, electro play, pet play, watersports, and needles/piercing. You don’t need to be into all of these things but I would like that some of our interests overlap and that you are interested in some level of power exchange.

I highly value good communication and will always be working to further my skills in this area. It is essential to me that you share this value. I believe that an open, accepting, two way line of communication is needed for both parties to have informed consent. I find myself being especially mindful of this due to my interest in involved psychological play and power exchange - If I know that the fundamentals of a relationship are on solid ground I feel more comfortable exploring the edges of things.

Outside of BDSM, I love music (gospel, jazz, shoegaze), coffee, art, nature, my cat, documentaries, science fiction, body modification, interfaith spirituality, tarot, psychic exploration, trance states, and float tanks. Some of my favorite artists are Beach House, Sufjan Stevens, The Grateful Dead, The Flaming Lips, Ella Fitzgerald, James Blake, and Norah Jones. I also enjoy musical theater and opera.

If you feel as though we have the potential to unfold something, please don’t hesitate to reach out. I tried to leave this post somewhat open ended as to not limit the possibilities. If you would like to speak further please send me a message with a brief introduction about yourself and what made you want to respond to this post. Also, please include the name of one of your favorite television shows so I know that you read this completely.

I am happy to chat through Reddit or Kik and have pictures ready if you would like to exchange at some point as well. Ive learned that I don’t love having multiple “getting to know you” conversations exclusively through online means so after a bit I will likely want to chat through the phone or video chat.

Please do not message me if : you desire an online only or long-distance relationship, if you respond without reading this message fully, if your first message is “hi”, if you send nudes without asking first, if you refer to me as “Sir” in your first message, if you don’t know your general desires and preferences, if you objectify dominants as a “kink dispenser”, etc…

Peace ✌️ and thanks for reading! I’ve met some awesome people through Reddit and hope to meet more