"online start, sort of” – because I make no promises for too much of an online D/s dynamic beyond talking about EVERYTHING->friendship->(if we get along and distance is a problem) LDR for some time->in person. Also, it's Eastern (right next to Central) Europe.“
This is the extremely (for me) short version:
I’m looking for someone to love and (eventually) live with, preferably forever (but we can talk).
There are few “requirements” besides being and wanting to be: forever child-free, completely honest (and preferably very direct), introverted, homebody, non-religious, between 21 and 37, monogamous, into reading (and gaming and tv watching), and financially independent at a minimum level (ideally through online means non-dependent on location).
Can’t stress the homebody part enough, I want the connection (though I’ve never been a fan of the word) and (the best) friendship and (required) trust and the love but I’m really not the going out (for fun) or traveling type.
On the bedroom side it can be, somewhat poorly, summarized as looking for someone that desires:
- to be the center of…relentless affectionate attention (a lot of it physical, including with some daddy dom tendencies – without age play, regression, or little space)
- to be in a D/s dynamic with power exchange (limited to sex related things, maybe not all but it can be a lot…OR maybe even beyond the sexual ONLY IF she wants it that way and I come to believe, after extensive talking, that I can do it that way, which isn't very likely)
- a free use policy – mainly caused by her high sex drive and it being a major turn on (it would respect all limits and take into account even mood and level of rest and real life obligations etc. BUT imagine wanting and thinking about and engaging in sexually charged and outright sexual activities daily, on average)
- affectionate, caring, and soft domination but somewhat…firm (not very strict, not rule oriented, and not the “I demand you obey” type BUT instead, as a result of compatible preferences, kinks and limits, she would be…very open to almost always saying yes when ASKED to submit).
ALL of the above only AFTER deciding I’m worth it (and after enough trust and in a gradual way, with most of it likely happening in person)…with the note that I think I’m adaptable enough (outside a few main points).
Hard limits: needles, knives, scat, public (that can be seen), illegal, permanent, group, emotional sadism, and there are…question marks about what most degradation and humiliation related things fall into (95% of it isn’t for me but some parts might be just soft limits, 5% is…complicated to explain briefly).
For the obligatory “about me” section, at the (high) risk of shooting myself in both feet, you can read the (mediocre and) too long previous post(s) to get a better (but still incomplete) picture, or just go with:
32 years old, INTP, homebody, entertainment obsessed (books –mostly different types of fiction, games, movies/series), short (a bit under 1.68m), mostly skinny (under 60kg), minimalist lifestyle, educated but uninterested in a typical career, aspiring dom. I also “happen” to be a good listener, caring, patient, generally selfish with the world but (with a few “hard limit” areas) would make “you” the exception…and I have absurd amounts of free time.
Always been terrible at expressing the positives, the “what I can give in a relationship”, so I’ll stick to stating only that I don’t want/expect/hope/require anything more than I’m willing (and able) to give, at any level (with the probable, slightly unfair, exception that I’m unlikely to relocate).
Re-posting this with minimal changes (after a 7 month break from...everything, even from looking for ppl to talk to) because otherwise I'm just going to get stuck overthinking details again.
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