So... There's a lot to say here, but tl;dr I'm an open-minded dom looking for a good female sub, or possibly a switch/domme partner who wants to dominate women with me. I've been doing this online, but I'd like to get an in person dynamic going.

I started to embrace my dominant side online 1-1.5 years ago, mostly on /r/fapdeciders and /r/femaleorgasmdenial. At first, I was just playing around, and then... people started telling me I'm good at it.

I was creative and responsive with tasks and predicaments and little games... I got in their heads, is the main thing. I think my core kink is, if this makes any sense, female pleasure. Like, it's a taboo, women are afraid to say what they like, so just getting them to say it -- say they want to submit, say they want to be degraded, whatever they want -- and once they admit it to me, they're mine.

So my kinks are reflective of my sub's kinks, in most cases. Do you want to be denied? I'll deny you. Are you into degradation? I'll degrade you in just the way you want. Do you want to seduce other women on my behalf? I'll make you. Do you like anal? I'll train your ass until you love it. if you're not into any of that -- let's focus on what you are into.

But I've only really done it. It's very hard to talk to a girl you like and say "so, do you want me to call you a worthless whore?" Obviously, there are better ways to broach the topic, but it's a lot easier online when she comes to me ready to admit what she wants. So I thought I'd look here for a woman who at least has some kinks, and wants to explore them together.

It'll be a learning experience for me, for sure. I want to practice delivering just the right amount of pain. I want to practice the tone of voice I use for a command. And I really want to practice aftercare -- it's very hard online, but I think I'd be god about it in person.

I'm also open minded in terms of dynamics. I'm definitely a dom, and not a switch, but if you're a domme, I really like the idea of us, as a couple, dominating some other slut. A switch might be the ideal -- best of both worlds, plus a whole series of games where I control you while you control your sub! But my online subs have mostly been purely submissive, and that's certainly not a problem for me.

Do I want a one-night stand, a long term submissive, or a kinky girlfriend? Again, I'm open-minded. I'm not opposed to monogamy, I'm not opposed to open dynamics. Eventually, I might decide one of these works better for me than the other, but for now, I'm just trying to explore.

If you're interested... We could start trying things out online. You could message me with your kinks, limits and toys. I'll have more questions for you, too. If you're willing to send photos, that's a big plus, but I might still be a little private. If not, it would help if you could tell me what you look like.

I'm near NYC, generally prefer femme women, and... If you're looking for a long-term romantic thing, it would be a big plus if you were Jewish. I know some redditors don't like that preference, but I don't really care.