This post is going to be long. Bear with me! Also, contrary to my handle, I do not smoke anymore. Please no messages about that.

Hello! I'm J, a 20-year-old submissive living on the East Coast. I am posting here in search of a long-term connection with an older dominant man. Please note that I am not looking for a fictional roleplay, but rather a real-life dynamic that is based online. I envision an arrangement in which we can discuss our kinks and fantasies, share stories of our experiences, and help each other get off via guided masturbation. I also enjoy the SFW aspect of things – getting to know each other as people. I want to learn about your work, your passions, your favorite books and films, etc.

The ideal Dom for me would describe himself as kind, intelligent, and respectful. As I mentioned in the title, he would also identify as a feminist and hold liberal values (anti-racist, accepting of the queer community, etc.). I have a particular fondness for older men, but I am open to anyone aged 18 , so long as we can meaningfully converse.

In terms of dominance style, I am looking first and foremost for someone who sets reasonable expectations. In other words, do not expect to message me once and have me at your feet immediately, begging to serve you. It takes time and trust for me to want to submit, and I want a partner who values my submission enough to work (and wait) for it. Also, you should be an aftercare enthusiast! Rough, degrading, and even sadistic play can be amazingly fun, but only when I know that there is genuine affection and care beneath it. I want to be treated as an equal who is choosing to submit to you out of respect for what you offer, rather than an object that you feel entitled to use.

I am in a relationship IRL and have permission from my partner to post here. I do not send nudes and will not meet in person per the terms of my relationship, but I'm more than happy to verify with SFW photos and voice calls once we get acquainted. (And if you've read this far, please include the word "pass" in your initial message!)

Now for the fun stuff. Some of my favorite kinks are: DD/lg, impact play, choking and breath play, verbal degradation and name-calling, bondage, and CNC. (A more extensive list can be found in my post history.) My hard limits are children, animals, scat, and extreme violence and gore. The results of my BDSM test are available via PM. Please feel free to send me your own results; I'd love to see them!

In terms of appearance, I'm 5'6" with the weight distribution of a former athlete. I have broad hips, thick thighs, and a wide ribcage (bra size is 36DD). I am on the heavier side, but not quite a BBW. I have blue eyes and wavy, light brown hair that falls to the middle of my back. I have fair skin and no freckles.

If you managed to make it all the way down here, thank you! I know it was quite the lengthy post, but I wanted to be as thorough as possible in hopes of finding the best match. I appreciate your time and look forward to your messages. <3