I am a 32 your old SS/BBW (depending on your definition). I am genderfluid though bodily I have a vagina and breasts. I use they them pronouns. I am polyamorous and a switch and I currently have a regular Dom.

I am re-exploring and expanding my dominant side and I am looking for a man who would like to undertake this with me in my local area.

I ADORE submissive men. For a long time I wasn't sure I did but I found this love has a few caveats. I am very picky as it turns out.

I want a submissive man that:

Doesn't just want a sexual top - this is a fine thing to want but it isn't what I want to provide (at least not solely)

Wants to actually submit - I am not a brat tamer

Is happy to hear my limits and knows his own - this is absolutely essential for all partners

Knows how to practice vetting and consent properly - If I have another potential sub call me honourifics with no discussion I think I will scream

Is happy with my Soft Domme style - Obviously not for everyone but that is how I roll (which is not to say impact/soft degradation is off the table, just that I am mentally gentle)

Lives near enough that I can see them without hassle - logistics are a bitch

Is willing to be a friend as well as involved in kink with me - another essential for me, no talk no kink

Understands that I am not a kink/pleasure dispenser and can see me as a human being - I have had issues here in the past, I am chronically ill and cannot always be "on"

Someone I find mentally and physically attractive

Someone who is, for the most part, quite stable

Of course it isn't all about me. If the above jives with you I would love to know your thoughts in what you would like out of a D/s relationship and love to chat also about vanilla/mundane lives and see if we gel.

Feel free to shoot me a message with your basic info and we can go from there.