I am a dominant of many years experience in the lifestyle and several of its alts. Vanilla, bdsm, gor, dd/lg, and mixes of them. I've been out of the game for a number of years after my last relationship ended badly and left me homeless, and I am presently hanging hat near Reno. So, a bit rusty, but I aint getting any younger so hey lets try this again and see what happens. I am looking for friends, contacts, and hopefully, among those, the one who will wear my collar again, first online, then eventually in person.

I am one who has seen hard times and pain, and learned to laugh through them but also to have compassion and listen for others who are in hard times. I am a gamer, bit of a geek, techie, maker and lover of life and laughter. I am also a hiker, camper, and cyclist. I am 6'3, and do have pics but I save those for people who are actually interested in pursuing something with me. I have a dog who is a mutual rescue and who eats before I do.

I am nonreligious, apolitical, dont take myself or life too seriously, and dont judge unless something causes intentional harm. I take everyone as individuals and recognize individuals are never going to be a 100% perfect match. Unicorns dont exist. Looks are not that important to me. I dont care if you have some extra padding, I certainly do but working on that. But I do encourage and will help with general fitness and health.

My approach with a girl is more nurturing, supporting and guiding than barking orders and punishments. I dont micromanage. What I need is a mentally, emotionally and sexually mature and available girl, who is open to being explored and guided, and eventually helped to become her best self as well as the best possible partner for me. One who will not just kneel at my feet but stand at my side when life gets rough. Seeing my girl blossom under my hand in this way and knowing she will be there for me is the heart of what I need and what I do. This includes talking and working through mistakes or miscommunications. Those who will silently ghost at the first wrong thing said or the first moment you feel uncomfortable, need not apply. If you are a work in progress, I would be honored to share your journey and help you along it.

There is no earthly way everything I've had experience in would be a match for any one girl, so the rest is down to trying different things and seeing what she responds best to, as well as noting the things that are best not brought up again. I learn something new each time. I follow SSC, but above these I place my two Laws, capital L, of honesty and respect, for oneself first then for others.

To anyone else who might be curious, exploring, confused, have questions, in need of a sounding board, looking for a voice of experience, or just need an ear or a shoulder, I offer them with no strings or pressure attached. And I mean anyone, for any topic, feel free to drop me a message. I dont bite on the first date and am looking to find new people to talk to, not just get kinky with.

Patiently searching still.