Repost. Still looking for a thoughtful play partners.

Hi there. As the title states, I'm an attractive, educated, NYC-based Dom.

I’m actively seeking opportunities to co-create some really fascinating / erotic / meaningful experiences with new people. I'm also exploring the more severe parts of my personality in a consensual (or consensually non-consensual) way.

I'm open-minded with regard to age or background, but I do have some preferences:

• I'm looking for someone educated (formally or informally). Being particularly drawn to the intellectual, emotional, philosophical facets of BDSM (in addition to the sensuous) means I'm really seeking someone who can articulate feedback in a clear, nuanced manner: you would need to be as much aware of what's intellectually and emotionally stimulating for you in addition to what is making you extra dripping wet. I have great respect for the responsibility of and delight in the creativity afforded by complete control over a sub's "user experience."
• You don't need to know all your limits, but you must be able to communicate them as you discover them. Healthy, safe play means the submissive must have some idea of when they are intentionally pushing past their boundaries, when a boundary must be maintained, and when (regardless of what was negotiated beforehand) they need to set a new boundary. This is important to me because it means you are taking responsibility over your part of the D/s relationship. If you're not sure what this means yet, I can explain more later on, but: basically I need to know I can count on you to communicate your needs.
• This must be a conscientious, ethical engagement. If you have other partners, I expect that they are aware and approve of your explorations with me. I see kink as a generative, life-affirming way to integrate trauma and shadow. This is a way for us to grow and learn in powerful, erotic ways.
  
• I am seeking someone that I am attracted to, which is means a fairly conventional aesthetic. I'm open minded, but historically I've only been attracted to femmes (femme-passing, if you're trans). Consequently, I am of course happy to exchange pics early on to check physical chemistry!
• I work in the social impact / social enterprise space. It’s probably important that you see value in making the world a better place. I’m progressive and not judge-y, but I do think values alignment will be helpful.

It's important to me that our time together carries positive growth in addition to kinky mindfuckery and sexytimes. As a result, I guess I just want to disclaim that you may have may yourself engaging in acts of public service or self-improvement in addition molding yourself into, say, an ever more perfect vessel for my cum.

I don't have a lot of time to spare (even now), but you'll find that I am decisive and efficient. I'm a deft learner and a clear communicator. I really hope that we can make the most of your time and, with your honest communication, I think we can craft something pretty special.

Note: I am polyamorous. I tagged this post as MF4F because there's high potential for group play, assuming there's mutual interest, availability, and chemistry from all parties. If you have no interested in scenes with other people, I delighted to give you the focus of 1 on 1s sessions. If you're bisexual or want to be double-dommed by a couple, let me know (committed LTR partner is a 27/pansexual/femme brilliant, gorgeous, sadistic, and hilarious force of nature). If you're open to couples, definitely holler! In addition, I have some amazing subby play partners whose kinks may complement yours, depending on what you're into.

As it happens I'm also looking for folks to join in on a kinky roleplaying experience I've been planning. Please see my post history for more information on that!

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Lastly, here are my bdsmtest.org results:

• 99% Owner
• 99% Non-monogamist
• 98% Rigger
• 86% Primal (Hunter)
• 76% Voyeur
• 76% Experimentalist
• 75% Vanilla
• 74% Daddy/Mommy
• 69% Master/Mistress
• 59% Degrader
• 59% Sadist
• 46% Ageplayer
• 46% Exhibitionist
• 45% Dominant
• 43% Boy/Girl
• 41% Submissive
• 40% Brat
• 38% Brat tamer
• 31% Slave
• 31% Switch
• 26% Primal (Prey)
• 25% Pet
• 14% Rope bunny
• 5% Masochist
• 2% Degradee