Hi there!
I am still looking for my new sub. The last time I placed an ad I got some nice responses but I didn't find what I was looking for exactly, so here I am again.
About me
My name is Nick, 30 years old and i live in Western Europe. I consider myself more of a dom than a master, since i don’t have the intention of controlling a sub’s life completely, and i like to care about my slaves/subs too. I have been a dom for over 7 years and i have had quite a few subs in the meantime. Mostly long-term, however a lot short-term subs as well (unfortunately). For the past 3 years, I have also acquired more real-life experience. For now, I am mostly looking for online, since most of you are located far away, but who knows where this goes. The ideal situation would be to start online and eventually meet each other.
What i’m looking for
I am looking for a female sub for a serious relationship. I am not interested in 24/7 control though, I understand that your own private/vanilla life is a lot more important than this kinky lifestyle.
I’m looking for someone who, in time, after trust and respect is earned, is eager enough to obey all of my orders directly (within limits), without hesitation, and who really enjoys doing so. Of course, your limits are always respected. I should also mention I mostly prefer someone with a slim to normal body (slightly chubby is fine too).
I would like to talk and play with you regularly, but this can be discussed. I am interested in something serious, but I am up for something casual as well, depending on your availability and needs.
I would prefer someone whose time zone is not too far away from me, but from previous experience I have learnt that a lot is possible, even when you are 9 hours apart, as long as you are both willing and devoted. It might require a bit of flexibility though.
Communication
Communication is really, really important in a dom/sub-relationship. I really want to know what you like or don’t, and what’s going through your mind. Everything can be discussed. If you’re not comfortable about something, just tell me. I will never let you do something which you are really not comfortable about or something that includes great risks (public, family, etc).
Also, it’s quite normal for us, with busy schedules, to not always have time for this kind of play. I absolutely understand it if you’re not able to talk/play for days or even weeks, but just let me know it. I have had some subs in the past who, out of nowhere, just disappeared without saying anything. That is just a shame and a waste of my time. Once again, everything can be discussed, just tell me.
You have to talk in proper English. Of course, speaking it fluently is not necessary (English is not my first language as well, as you may have noticed by now), but you need to be able to form proper sentences and communicate easily. Typing like this "hi how r u" is a major turn-off. The same goes for one-line responses.
Ghosting subs are a major turn-off for me!
Once you get to know me, you will see that (however strict often) I am a kind person who cares about his subs, so if you need some time for yourself or anything else, I will respect that. If you ever want to take a break, or go your own way, that is not a problem for me, because I respect your private life too much for that. However, I would highly appreciate it if you at least tell me, instead of just leaving without any notification. This has happened a few times already and it is very disappointing.
What i like to do with/to my slaves
It would be great if our interests somehow match. The list below contains a few things I like to do to my slaves and which I hope you as a sub like as well. However, it’s not needed for you to like all the things listed below. We can always discuss likes, dislikes and limits.
My main kinks:
- Bondage
- Orgasm control
- Tease and denial
- Humiliation
- Choking
- Edging
- Nipple play
- Dressing up/clothing control
- Anal
- Pain
- Impact play
- Ice
- Wax
Limits
The following list contains (among others) a few (standard) things I will never make you do as my sub:
Permanent damage, scars/marks, heavy/extreme pain, scat, blood, needles, illegal, blackmail, dangerous; anything filthy, with too great risks or dangerous (the standard list).
How we will play
I prefer regular, (almost) daily contact via messaging, combined with a set of rules. On top of that, 1-2 live sessions a week, depending on both our schedules, and daily/weekly tasks (also depending on schedules) via skype, kik or e-mail.
I don't require you to get on cam from the start though! And you will be seeing me as well (unless you like the mistery and therefore prefer not to)!
I understand that some subs prefer kik sessions over cam sessions, but for me the interactive part in a webcam session is very important. In a webcam session I can direct you in detailed ways and respond to your actions directly. So, no waiting on either side. I highly prefer this over giving you tasks, waiting until you do them and report to me, before being able to give you the next task. I get that for some subs this can be too much to start however, and I respect that.
These sessions can be discussed of course. However, it is highly preferred that you will be able to start doing cam sessions pretty soon. I will do anything I can do to build trust between us. I have a webcam too and i will use it if needed/wanted. Of course, you don’t have to show your (full) face if you don't want to. If you really don’t want to start with cam sessions from the start, i will give you time for this and we will think of a sufficient alternative.
Apply
Are you interested in becoming my sub and are you intrigued by what you read above? Then feel free to contact me via a private message on this website (no chat messages please, just send me a message). From there, we can communicate via Skype, Kik or e-mail (Skype is preferred). Your private message to me needs to contain at least:
- Personal info (real name not required of course)
- Gender
- Age
- Body appearance/type
- Location (specific country or state not required)
- Your likes, dislikes and limits
- If you have a webcam (eventually required, but not from the start)
- What kind of slave/sub you consider yourself?
- Why you would like to become my slave?
Anyone who will send me messages only consisting of 'hi i wanna be ur slave' or similar one-liners will be ignored.
Are you still reading this and are you interested in knowing what it would be like to be my sub? Then send me a message and we'll see where it goes. If you have any questions, feel free to ask.
Nick
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