Hi,

28/M/NYC. I'm more of a Coffee Meets Bagel guy usually but trying this. Work in Manhattan, live in BK on the L.

I'm perfectly capable of being happy with vanilla sex - none of the kinks on my list are must-haves, but I'm very into a lot of different kinks. I'm open to people who are at all experience levels.

See my full kink list here (all of them optional):

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Kink for me is very verbal, very textual, very scenario based. It's about orders, permission, punishment, scolding, pampering, whispering, growling, rules, rewards, teasing, denying, humiliating if you're into it. And I enjoy being on either side of that behavior. If you're only comfortable with being the dominant partner or the submissive partner, I'm interested in exploring both sides of my kink so I'm OK with only acting out one side. I like them both but don't need either to be happy.

What kinds of fantasies turn me on?

• The idea that I make you dress a little sluttier, or encourage you to be the one to flash your breasts at the Mardi Gras party even though my friends are watching, or be a little more flirtatious when guys come up to you, or encourage you to think about what it would be like to fuck the cute guy across the bar.

• The idea that - if you like the idea - on another similar night, even though I'm the one who's been pushing you to be a little more wild, I might just punish you for disrespecting daddy and being such a slut when we get home.

• The idea that one night we might decide you need my permission to touch yourself. And sometimes I might decide you don't get to do so even though I'm tracing every bit of your body with my fingertips except those few spots you want me to. And telling you I'm not going to caress your lips with my tongue, or rub the tip of my cock against your clit. How I'm not going to fuck you in front of a mirror. Nope, you don't get to touch yourself I say as I whisper in your ear everything you want to happen more than anything.

• The idea that I need your permission to touch myself. And even though you're lying on the bed in front of me, sticking your ass up in the air and wiggling it in my face, I don't get to touch you. While you tell me about how I don't deserve your body but other guys do and the things you want to do with them. Or tell me about that sex act you did with your ex that I don't get to do. Or the idea that for a few days of torture you might do nothing but sit on my face while telling me my dick doesn't get to go anywhere near you but you'll let me put my tongue to use and if I'm a good boy maybe you'll jerk me off.

• The idea that in the morning when you're looking in the mirror after showering there are some beautiful bright red hand prints on your ass from where I spanked or paddled you.

• The idea that you might spank yourself to leave bright red marks on your ass before you meet up with me, and then when I pull your panties down you tell me you were a bad girl and went home with your other daddy. Or the idea that on the way home from a girl's night out, you might mess up your hair and makeup, squirt some white lube into your panties, and then crawl into my bed telling me you were a bad girl and have something to show me. All knowing I'll get jealous but turned on and give you the rough punishment sex you're craving.

• The idea that when you've failed to be my good girl and broken our negotiated rule you'll accept the punishment we decided on, whether that's some deepthroating until you've cried a few mascara tears, being teased and denied, or spanking.

• The idea that if you don't want to do something, you'll tell me or use a safeword. And that you'll respect and care for me if I do the same.

• The idea that I'll use a remote control vibrator on you when we're in public - maybe a few buzzes when I want to prompt you to say something flirty to a guy, or maybe I'll send some pulses at you when you've followed one of our rules successfully as a reward. Maybe I'll make you sit in a public place and try to keep from blushing while you try to read a book as I keep surprising you with random pulses straight to your clit.

These are just some examples of how I like to think of kink as a temporary power exchange or persona/role to be slipped into. But there are countless others.

Would prefer a partner who mostly keeps kink as a sex and foreplay thing, not a 24/7 dynamic or when we're at the grocery store...unless we're there to get a cucumber to play with that is. I prefer an equal relationship outside of kink.

If this sounds like something you could see yourself being open to, I'd love to chat and get to know you a bit and eventually go for coffee or a bottle of wine. Whether you're into just a couple items on the list or a lot, or are into different things but think we might have something in common.