TL;DR

I'm looking for a sub, someone that I can have control over. The relationship should develop as naturally as a D/s relationship can. Ideally, more and more control would be given, slowly evolving into more of a Master/slave sort of scenario.

Must be okay with the fact that I'm married (wife is fully aware and supportive of this search) and that I have a family and full-time job. I'm also not well-off, so I can't support someone fully at this time.

A Bit About Me

I'm a bit of a narcissist... just kidding.

Actually, I'm something more of a person who has acquired confidence through life experiences, rather than believing myself simply better than everyone else just because I exist. I know what it's like to be picked on, to feel alone even in a crowd, and to have that affect the way you see yourself. I've grown stronger for it, and the confidence I have developed isn't based on a narrow tower of cards supported by specific achievements or standards of beauty or intelligence.

I'm about average on the attractiveness scale. Perhaps a bit higher if I were to drop back down to my ideal weight. I'm a large individual, standing at 6'1". While I certainly look a bit fat, my frame and height help to dissipate that appearance somewhat, and I have decent muscular strength for my gender and age.

A Bit About You

Ideally I'm looking for a woman, preferably younger than me. However, anyone that's under 20 (18 and 19) are likely a bit too young. That being said, I'm fairly open, so I wouldn't discourage anyone from seeking interest because of their age.

I need someone that I can "fix" so-to-speak. Given my life experiences, my training, and my career, I fit best in the role of a nurturing Dom. This doesn't mean that I can't do sadism, degradation, or other popular forms of humiliation and personality breakdown. To the contrary, the sort of individual I'm looking for would be someone who I feel I will need to break down a bit before I go back in and begin to build them back up.

So, while my plan would be to work someone up to a greater level of confidence, it would likely be a confidence based on my approval -- i.e. Regardless of how great one's confidence might be, I'm hoping to shape that person to see me as their redeemer/savior and thus devote themselves utterly to me.

I'd also like to note that, while I've put up a preference for women. I'm not exclusionary to trans women, and I may even be willing to work with a sissy if I feel the chemistry is there.

Specific Kinks

The following are kinks that I regularly enjoy and might give a deeper peek into what is going on in my head:

• MC/Hypnosis: I'm a fledgling at this. But I would almost certainly want to put my psychological skills to use and do so by working with people through hypnosis. Understanding that it is not a "wave your magic pocket watch and presto," there are aspects to the methodology that can be used to reinforce behaviors.
• Dollification/clothing: I have a particular kink for either: women who prefer to doll themselves up, wearing only (or mostly) skirts and dresses and paying attention to many aspects of their appearance; OR women who I can slowly convince and shape into a woman who wears only (or mostly) skirts and dresses and pays attention to every aspect of their appearance.
• Bimbo-ish: I'm not a "blonde hair, blue eyes, and cartoonish tits" sort of guy. Rather, I find it rather sexy to find or make someone into something that focuses almost exclusively on appearance and sex. Kudos/bonus points for a woman who is smart and successful but unhappy, who wants to be changed in such ways.
• Non-sexual: For me, controlling someone isn't just about forcing them to do uncomfortable, sexy things. It's more about having that person understand that freely gives up control and choices to me. As such, this isn't just a sort of "in the bedroom" thing, I'd want it to dominate every aspect of said person's life.
• Orgasm Control: A lot of my sadism is born out of the aforementioned control aspect to who I am. As a result, a lot of my more sexual kinks follow in this trend, such as deciding when a person can and can't experience orgasm.
• Breath Control: This is probably the riskiest I tend to prefer in sexual play. Which isn't to say that I can't or won't do other things if my partner enjoys them, but I prefer not to do things which can cause lasting harm and permanent damage.
• Availability: My presence isn't just limited by the ongoing events of my life. I thoroughly enjoy using my presence as a training tool for behavior modification. Withholding myself to teach a lesson. This goes both ways, however. Though, in the opposite direction, there's more of an expectation on my part that my sub would be available anytime as needed, more-or-less.
• Bondage/Collar/Leash: I'm very friendly to these and other forms of restrictive movement and control, as well as visible signs that my sub is owned, even if it's not obvious that they're owned by me.

If any of that seems interesting to you, please message me. General questions I'm more than willing to answer in the thread, but I'm a pretty open book with specific questions if they're asked privately. While I'm fine with doing local OR long distance, the latter would certainly require access to various means of communication for both audio and visual.