I'm a dominant male, and my relationship with my wife is healthy and vibrant. Though she has her own dominant side, she submits to me readily and I've had no desire to cheat on her or otherwise go behind her back to satisfy desires.

She has long known about my "darker" impulses. Some of these impulses are things I can only roleplay, for they would otherwise border on the illegal and unethical.

However, other impulses, while dark, are perfectly acceptable given the right partner. I cannot act on these impulses with my wife. Though she has been very understanding and wanting me to explore our desires together more deeply (something we're actively doing!) I know that there's a certain limit that I have in place. A line I won't cross with her.

However, that's not necessarily true for someone else.

What I'm looking for is someone that I can objectify and influence. Someone I can shape and mold. I want a clay person, one that I can break down and rebuild in my own whimsical image.

Unfortunately, this is a big commitment for most and I'm not in a place yet where I could truly support this fantasy, and the person(s) that would be a part of it. So, while I would eventually like to have the real thing, I realize my best opportunity is something online.

Not just roleplay though. I can get roleplay in any number of places, and do roleplay in many of those places. I'd like to get a taste of what I'm looking for. Someone who is willing to submit, in real life, even if it's online/long-distance. I need it to be personal, not just an act between two imaginary characters.

So, while I'm stepping back from having someone I can own utterly, I'm still trying to settle for something close to the heart of what I need, what I'm looking for. A sort of trial run, to see where it goes and to see if this is something I can commit to. I'm leaning towards yes, I do feel prepared for this, even if my life circumstances limit my options.

This is NOT something that everyone or even most people would be looking for, so I understand if my responses remain limited. But I'm hoping that I'll catch the eye of someone who's willing to give it a try, to give over control to someone remotely, and watch their life change.