I'm intelligent, both intellectually and emotionally, but also occasionally miss the absurdly obvious from the emotional side because I can be rather absurdly practical. I'm mentally quite healthy aside from occasional existential worries about things like where the hell my country is going, whether or not the ideas that made sense in my head made sense in reality, and what the hell I'm going to do since I'm 32 and feel like maybe I shouldn't be not married at this point. Last, but not least, I'm a nerd. Not the video game/anime flavor, more a student of the world sort of flavor. I care a lot about understanding the why, and that everything makes sense.

I have a good job, a secure lifestyle, am relatively handsome, and look pretty successful from a vanilla perspective. I live in Iowa.

Also, I'm dominant. That was a crazy wild discovery ride around 4 years ago and I wouldn't give it up for the world. But I'm at the point where I know it's just a part of me. My kinks are flexible and depend on my submissive. If you can't express your enjoyment in some way to me, I'll have a hard time with you as a submissive. That said, enjoyment can be expressed in many thoroughly interesting ways though both dirty talk, and thriving under my care. I wonder if I could say I'm an evidence-based dominant? That's rather amusing to think about.

Any damn way, I am here and you can message me. I'm looking for what comes to me. Maybe it's a long term relationship in real life. Maybe it's a one time fun session, or maybe it's an online thing that is a fun little stress relief that we both enjoy and continues for quite awhile. The world will be as it is, and I will still be here. I'm not going to panic - This, too, shall pass.

You're a human first, and whatever flavor or submissive you happen to be second. You're intelligent. Height-weight proportional. You're willing to explore to enough depth that you can become comfortable sharing pictures at some point. I'm male, visual stimulation turns out to be important despite my intellectual bent. After that, just be you, please.