Those fantasies you have? The kinky smut you like to read? If it's legal and consensual, I've probably done some variation or version of it. Bondage in metal, leather, rope, tape, plastic and more. Attending dungeons, play parties, kink classes and being a part of the broader BDSM community. Sadistic scenes that incorporate physical, mental and emotional pain. CNC. Strict, long-term ownership while living together - from managing schedules to free use to appearance control to behavior modification and training. Crafting toys in leather and wood. Orgasm control and denial. Contracts and collarings.

I've done all of this in person, starting in my early 20s. I can discuss everything from how to throw a whip, to managing uplines in a suspension, to the risks of breath play to challenges of seamlessly merging BDSM with everyday life. Please, feel free to vet my experience and knowledge in any way you like - all questions are fair game.

I'm looking for a lifetime partner who wants to join me in a relationship with a BDSM foundation. I'll talk a bit more about what I'm looking for below, but first let get the big dealbreakers out of the way:

• Online is a place to meet, talk and get to know each other - it isn't where I want this to stay because I need an in-person relationship. Please be ready to verify that we are real people in a safe way early on. Once we talk a bit and seem to have a good connection, I'll ask to meet in a safe neutral place like a restaurant. We can check chemistry, attraction, prove we are real people and decide if we want to continue to explore a relationship.
• I'm demisexual and have a strict sexual safety approach to minimize risks. Sex requires a connection, chemistry, recent tests and some conversations about risks.
• I am active in the local kink community. That means I teach classes, mentor both tops and bottoms and have play scenes with friends. Play often includes things like rope, impact, fear, primal wrestling and other things. It doesn't mean I'm having sex with everyone.
• My dream is a BDSM household that involves multiple committed and loving relationships founded in strict power exchange. I am ethically non-monogamous and own a slave who lives with me. She is fully aware that I am dating and seeking a submissive. Please note that this is not a unicorn hunting situation - you aren't dating the couple.

I completely understand that this isn't what most people are looking for - if you are checking out now, I wish you the best in your search and hope you find exactly what you are looking for. If you are still interested, here are some more facts about me:

• I'm nerdy and geeky enjoying all things fantasy, sci-fi, horror, anime and manga. Recent book/show favorites have been Dungeon Crawler Carl, Wind and Truth, Solo Leveling, Frieren. One of my extra bedrooms has been turned into a small library with many bookcases and a recliner for comfy reading.
• I love board games and have turned my dining room into a game room complete with gaming table and a ton of board games. I enjoy hosting gaming nights on a regular basis with fun potluck food themes and good times.
• I cook quite often. While I don't bake, I love making savory foods in a lot of different cuisines. I also love to grill/smoke everything from steaks to lamb chops to brisket.
• I enjoy going to the gym regularly to stay in shape and am looking forward to hiking soon as it warms up.
• There are always a couple of vacations every year for conventions, amusement parks and road trips. DragonCon is always a mandatory vacation, but the others vary from visiting Europe to kink conventions to Cedar Point.
• And because BDSM is why we are here, some of my favorite kinks and fetishes: 24/7, anal play, breath play, behavior modification, bondage (leather, tape, long term, extreme, etc.), breast bondage/torture, cages, chastity/orgasm denial, CNC, electrical play, encasement/mummifications, eye/speech restrictions, fear play, feminization/pinup, high protocol, humiliation/degradation, impact play (canes, flogging, spanking, whips, pervetables, etc.), interrogations, kidnappings, knives, latex, leather, metal bondage, mind fucks, objectification, orgasm control/denial, predicaments, rope, sensory deprivation, service, wax

What do I hope to find in you?

• Experience level doesn't matter, we all start somewhere. What does matter are your BDSM needs - we are a much better match if you want something 24/7 than if you want just a few scenes or some bedroom fun.
• Age and age gaps are perfectly fine. I've dated in age gaps before and care much more about who you are than how many birthdays you can count.
• You want it all - BDSM, everyday life, exploring our dark interests together, being loved and cared for
• You dream about being part of a kinky household and community, accepted for who you are with a supportive owner, metamour and friends. You understand that life is richer with more loved ones around.
• You want a relationship that starts with meeting and getting to know each other, then progresses over time to incorporate D/s, play, collaring and living together
• Given the right match and opportunity, you want to make this actually happen - not just talk about it
• Where you live now doesn't matter much, as long as you have the flexibility to move if we get to that point

I know that was a lot, thank you if you made it this far. If this peaked your interests, start up a chat with more than a "Hey!". Give me something to respond to. Who are you? What caught your interest in my personal? Why do you think we're a good match?

Damon