Long-term kink couple here who used to play around in the lifestyle somewhat frequently but gave up after a number of disappointing encounters. Since then we’ve turned our urges inward and settled on a Goddess-led dynamic where I (42F) am in complete control of our relationship, both inside and outside the bedroom. The only sexual role he (48m) is permitted is that of a completely submissive and feminized bottom. His most comfortable place is on his knees worshipping me as his owner and master. A typical romantic encounter for us begins with him being restrained and thoroughly beaten before he’s allowed to beg for one of the large black strap-ons in my collection. He’s my needy little sissy and I genuinely enjoy treating him in ways most people would find unthinkable.

We are both white, but much of our play involves very intense and verbal fantasizing about inviting a well-hung black gentleman to join us in real life and top my partner in every way imaginable while I direct events and degrade and humiliate and punish him.

If we were to find the match we’re looking for, sex with me is very much on the table (and very likely), but strictly on my terms. I am absolutely NOT interested in being dominated by anyone, most especially a man. I am also not looking to dominate you (unless you’re interested in that and able to perform your function as a top at the same time). Your role would largely be that of a stunt-cock, and as such you must be able to get hard and stay hard and preferably share our passion for race-based taboo play. This is absolutely not a scenario for the faint-of-heart or first-timers.

We have a particular preference for men who can bring a partner to the table. Our main reason for this is that far too many men are completely full of shit, willing to claim to be whatever it takes to set up a date and then feign surprise when they can’t perform, or even worse, perform a pathetically short act and then limp for the exit. We’re not entertaining that nonsense ever again.

We’re looking for seasoned couples where the woman can not only vouch for the man’s capabilities, but also show a sincere excitement for the scenario we’re proposing. The most ideal arrangement would be a fellow Femdom couple with a hung black service top included, but we understand that’s a lot to hope for. Acceptable alternatives would be couples with dominant black men and submissive women, as long as he understands and accepts he will NOT be in any position of power over me at any time. I will certainly invite him to exert various types of dominance over my sub and eagerly collaborate in dominating his partner if that’s something everyone finds appealing, but all of this would be contingent upon everyone understanding and accepting boundaries beforehand. We’re firm believers that thorough communication in the beginning leads to larger enjoyment once things move to the bedroom.

I feel it’s an important detail to add that I am very bisexual and open to almost any type of play with women, including trans women. I feel it’s additionally important to add that I am not a bikini-model. I am on the smaller end of the plus-sized spectrum and my body carries notable vestiges of motherhood. I find the same very sexy in other women. Although my partner is completely submissive to me and only allowed to perform in submissive and “feminine” sexual roles, he is relatively fit and masculine, not at all girly, although I do dress him suggestively in women’s clothing for emasculation purposes. We are rather open to body-type as far as men, although I do have a distinct preference for bulkier, dad-bod types. Dark and uncircumcised is a fun plus, but not a requirement. In case we haven’t been clear enough thus far, we are interested in black men and black men only, no exceptions. Women can be of any race or size or color. The most important criteria otherwise for everyone is a genuine openness to really letting go and sharing the kind of primal sexual energy that most people would never understand.

We don’t travel OTP and don’t host in our home, but we are open to working together to find a place to meet that works for everyone. We would be very interested in an arrangement in our immediate neighborhood that would allow for her to spontaneously spend time with one or both of you alone when time permits, but please do not approach us with any intentions that do not involve including him significantly. You must demonstrate meaningful commitment to advancing his training as a submissive.

The most important thing to remember about all of this is that SHE is in control on our end and ultimately decides everything. Her comfort and pleasure and happiness are the key purposes of our relationship. People who understand that, who share the belief that the rightful place of a woman is IN CONTROL, those people will most keenly garner our attention.

The last note is a notion that should go without saying: everyone involved in anything we do, sexual or otherwise, will be regarded first and foremost as a person—someone with real feelings and real purpose and real value. What we do behind closed doors doesn’t change that. As a black man, you will be objectified and my white partner will be forced to confess you as his superior. He will kneel in your presence and be dehumanized as property. The opinions of people who find this offensive are of no meaning here. Our purpose is to explore boundaries of sex and spirit and emotion in ways that draw people closer through the sort of vulnerability life will never present unless you go looking for it. When we part ways, we part ways with complete respect for one another and everything we shared together.

Please only approach us with the same level of thoughtfulness we’ve provided here. We know our kinky match is out there somewhere. We just have to share the effort to build it together.