Bear with me, I have something to say this morning...perhaps this will be a test in your willingness to dive into long form discussion...or it will just be a chance for me to talk at no one in particular. Either way, kudos if you read through this whole post.

Years ago I had a "friend" who told me something that stuck with me. We were debating the merits of a "mutually beneficial" relationship (note, this post is not for what that phrase normally refers to), and she made the very salient point that when you think about it, if any relationship is not mutually beneficial then why the hell are you in it?

This has stuck with me, and made me reframe what I am looking for. We are all here for a reason. We want to find someone to fill a need or a want. We want to find a dynamic that is beneficial to us. And success is when we find someone whose wants or needs fit with our own. We don't need to be looking for the exact same thing, but rather they need to complement each other.

This is also connected to why I am so drawn to power dynamics...because those who crave relationships based on control generally are leaning into the fact that they crave a certain dynamic and are actively seeking someone who fills that need with the opposite desire, creating a mutually beneficial arrangement.

So, where am I in this search? Well, what I crave is vulnerability. I want to find a younger woman who wants to be seen, and wants to let go, even for a little while. Someone who wants to build trust (and perhaps desire) and who wants to take a leap of faith from time to time with someone that they believe can help guide them.

I am not looking for someone weak or someone who just wants to be spanked, but rather someone strong who wants to willingly give up control to someone else.

One big caveat is that I am married and discretion is very important to me. So, you should be open to exploring within those perameters. If you are willing, let's discuss. This could be fully online, or if you are in the Massachusetts area, I would love to find someone who wants to potentially explore in person if we hit it off.

If you have read this far, and are interested, tell me a bit about yourself. While you don't have to write a novel, I very much enjoy talking to someone who wants to open up and put a little effort into it. The more energy you have, the better, as I do have a thing for needy girls.