Dear Reader,

I’m looking for a woman that thrives off of submission, who yearns for that sense of being someone’s possession and complete lack of control. Kink in a relationship isn’t optional for her. She is never more free than when she is bound. She finds joy in being submissive because none of the decisions are hers. When she can’t refuse anything, can’t even move, the voices in her head go silent. All she can do, all she is permitted to do, is feel.

I want someone who wants someone like me to rip control away from her. She knows she’s different, that she can’t admit these feelings in public. So she’s come to Reddit to find the same crazy as her. Someone to take the reigns and unravel her; someone to strip her of pride, pretense, and privilege. Then when he’s done, he’ll treat her like an animal, like less than an animal and use and abuse her according to his own desires. Being called a fucktoy is a term of endearment.

I need someone who craves to be objectified. To be nothing but a set of holes means a heightened sense of purpose, the embodiment of her sexuality, and permission to be a mindless prop in someone’s wet dream; the thought of which does nothing but arouse her. The focus isn’t on her but the one who own’s her, his pleasure, his desires. He only uses her when he absolutely desires her, when the sensation of her insides is all that he can think about.

I’m looking for a partner, a sub, a slave, an object. I’m a 37 year old Engineer living in Southern California, in the Inland Empire. I’m looking for a female, any height, any race, who is height-weight proportional. I’m willing to start online, to get to know you, but my intention is for an in-person relationship.

In my previous dynamics, I utilized collars, rituals, and routines to engage and nurture mindsets. My scenes are heavy into bondage, sensory deprivation, overstimulation, tease and denial, humiliation, degradation, CNC, free use, and objectification. I’m safety-minded. I don’t want my slave to have to worry about any little thing, so it’s important to me that I make them feel secure and able to let go.

Beyond kink, I’m generally easy to get along with. I keep my house clean, able to fix most things around the house, and cook for myself. I like baking. My parents are bakers, so it’s inherited. I also like woodworking, designing, and building things. I do some graphic design. I like to play video games like Helldivers 2, Zenless Zone Zero, Age of Empires IV, and Baldur’s Gate 3. I’ve been mulling over getting into Marvel Rivals. I watch a lot of YouTube, Anime, and Netflix. I also like to write, mainly erotica but also some role-play. Not a fan of cults. I’m politically left and not religious.

If you send a message to me, feel free to write me a novel. I love to read and getting to know you will help me better understand our compatibility. Feel free to ask any questions. I’m an open book. Being honest will only save us time. If nothing else, we can have a long chat about our kinks and fetishes. I appreciate you reading this far.

Very Respectfully,

Jay.