(I made an audio transcript of my post here. Hearing my words through my own voice rather than text will give you a better introduction to who I am. )

As of right now, I may just be the happiest I've ever been in my entire life. My mental health is great, I have a new job that I love, friends and hobbies to keep me occupied... there are very few surprises in my life right now. But I still have an ache inside me. If you're here on this subreddit, you know this ache too. It's painful if you focus too much on it, but some days it feels impossible to ignore. It's different for everyone, but for me it's a need to share this happiness I'm feeling. I'm longing to protect and hold someone. To have someone who depends on me for comfort and care, and to love and cherish.

So here I am... looking for that on reddit. This website can be a mixed bag, but if someone like you is here as well it can't be all bad. What I'm looking for is a long-term relationship. However, I'm posting on this subreddit specifically because a D/S dynamic is very important to me.

About me:

I'm 5'11", 220lbs, white, pale, dark hair, green eyes, glasses. I switch between a beard and no beard depending on how I feel. As far as interests, without a doubt my biggest hobby is reading. In fact, reading books on BDSM is probably how I got so into this whole thing in the first place. I enjoy reading so much, at one point I was certain I was going to be a writer. But I figured out that writing as a career didn't suite me as much as I expected. One of my goals is to own enough books that I love that I have to get a big bookshelf that I can fill up completely with them. I'm currently re-reading a book called The Way of Kings, by Brandon Sanderson. Some of my other hobbies include video games (Marvel Rivals in particular right now), show/movie watching and D&D.

Personality wise I'd say I'm very relaxed, patient and affectionate to those I love. I'm not always the biggest talker but I love to listen. I don't get angry easily at all.

Who I'm looking for:

What matters most to me is finding someone who enjoys being with me as much as I enjoy being with them. I want to hear you excitedly gush about your day. Are you needy, affectionate, or clingy? Perfect. Talk my ear off and cling to me- there's no music more soothing than the sound of your voice. I'd be especially excited if you share any interests with me. Being able to read, watch movies/shows or play games together is something I deeply enjoy. And when it comes to physical characteristics, I'm not looking for anything in particular, I'm attracted to all types. The only dealbreaker I keep an eye out for is that I don't date smokers. Can't stand the smell, personally.

Nsfw:

I am not looking to start a dynamic on day one. I first want to get to know you and build trust between us. However, eventually starting a dynamic is a must for me. It deepens intimacy to such a degree that a relationship without it just doesn't compare. So that said, it's important you know what I'm looking for as part of a dynamic as it could be incompatible with what you're looking for yourself. I will also preface that despite the dynamic I'm about to describe, what I'm looking for is a relationship first and foremost. Outside of the dynamic, we are equals.

If you're interested in being mine, you need to understand that in this dynamic, you ARE mine. As in, you belong to me. I am possessive and I absolutely do not share. Do you want to feel dominated, controlled, taken, and owned by a man? Because that's exactly what I want to make you feel. You are mine to care for, adore, and to use. You'll call me either master or sir, and you'll leave decisions in life to me, trusting that I know better than you and will do what's best for you. You are clingy, needy, loving, and obedient (most of the time). I prefer taking the role of the provider, meaning I work my job while you take care of the home. However, I would never force you to stop working if you're passionate about pursuing your own career. Either way, I want to say that I still prefer to do plenty of housework and cooking. A dominant man can still wash the dishes and be dominant.

Some kinks I like to work in to this kind of dynamic: collars, degradation, praising, disciplining, freeuse, orgasm control, spanking, somnophilia, misogyny-play, master/pet, master/servant.

Alright, I've said all that I need to said. Though this will start long distance, the final goal is to eventually close the distance. I'd love to talk with you more and get to know you. Send me a DM here on reddit if I caught your interest, and to show you've read my post, tell me about what your idea of a perfect day is. A perfect day in my mind is cuddling together on a couch or in bed while watching our favorite tv show and it rains outside. It doesn't get better than that for me.

To close out, here's a little flavor about myself in the from of some of my favorite things, as well as more kinks, and limits)

Favorite book: The Way of Kings

Favorite game: Baldur's Gate 3

Favorite recent show: Delicious in Dungeon

Favorite animal: Cats

More Kinks: aftercare, rough sex, giving orders, bondage, cuddling, CNC, breeding (despite this kink, I've actually had a vasectomy. The idea of breeding is fun, but the absolute last thing I want is kids)

Limits: Scat, blood, permanent damage, anything illegal