Hey there, for the sake of protective anonymity, you can call me Kage for now. Bear with me, this is going to be long winded, but I'm a huge conversationalist. I've been lonely for quite some time, so I'm here seeking something serious. I'm here to find my forever Sub, the Elliot to my JD, the Laura Mohr to my Shoresy. (If those references fall flat, I'm sorry.)

So, where do I start? I suppose a little about me would be best, I don't want you to waste your time by reading through all this to find out I'm not your type. I'll preface this by admitting, I'm a ThicccBear. I'm a big guy, but I am actively working on it. 6 foot tall, 350 pounds, hairy, bearded, and very broad shoulders. I make up for it by being really cuddly. I'm not the most outgoing person, but I'm trying to be more confident about who I am. Honestly, I'd rate myself about 3 or 4, maybe a solid 6 if I goth out a bit. Here's a few pictures of me, you can make your own judgement.

https://imgur.com/a/Zrg8X6B

I'll admit, my self image hasn't always been the best. I struggle with depression quite a bit, but I've been better lately about reaching out for help when I need it. I've got my support system of friends, and I really cherish them. When I have special people in my life, I fight to keep them there. I love fiercely and deeply. I'm incredibly protective of those I love. I can go from golden retriever to guard dog when my people need me to.

I'd say my aesthetic is definitely "Yallternative" . I'm blue collar, but I usually dress a little goth-y on my off days. But I definitely wanna become even more Alternative. Black is my go to color, although living with a German shepherd makes that difficult. No outfit is complete without dog hair. I've got light to moderate tattoo coverage, and plan to be completely covered one day. I like piercings, but only have my ears twice stretched. I plan for a couple more.

A wee bit about you. If I had to describe my ideal woman, I'd have to say I want somebody soft hearted. Somebody who complements who I am. Somebody weird, open minded, comforting, mature and patient. Someone who pushes me to be better, and drives me to succeed. Physically, while I realize it's hypocritical of me as a big guy, I'm attracted to shorter, smaller women. However I do like girls with a little jiggle as well. It's not necessarily a deal breaker, but I find the size difference something I like. Age wise, I'd say IDEALLY I'm seeking someone 20-25ish, but that's just because I like the dominance factor of an age gap. Style wise, I love those goth girls however it's also not must have. But I've got a weakness for girls with Tattoos, piercings, colored hair, who is more than a little spooky. But also someone who can get her hands dirty and do some cowgirl shit. I've got a rock crawler jeep, so someone to ride along or drive would be really fun. I know I may sound picky, but I just know what I want and I know I'll treat my partner as the most important person in the world.

A little about the relationship dynamic I seek. First and foremost, I want to tell you I'm pretty positive I'm intending to be child free. And ideally, you would be too. I'm not totally opposed to my partner having a child who's a bit older, I'm just not the most comfortable around babies. Poopy diapers aren't my thing. And not to disparage parents, but let's face it kids are expensive. I'm not rich, but I make decent money and I want to use that money to experience all I can. I don't want to sound like I'm not nurturing, I've got a godson who is the world to me and I look forward to being a teacher to him as he grows. I've got nieces and nephews as well. But I want to find my person and explore the world without being monetarily held back by kids. Plus, my honestly pessimistic view on the state of the world leads me to believe that I couldn't in good conscience bring a child into it.

As I've mentioned, I'm a Dom. I'm a sadist, but I'm very cognizant of hard limits and not pushing my sub too far. I'm a hypersexual, and would like to find someone who's open to a free use dynamic. And that would go both ways. As far as the D/S situation goes, I keep it in the bedroom, aside from my partner having a day collar or something to that effect. I've got a lot of fantasies and fetishes that we can go into detail about privately, so an open mind and willingness to experiment and explore is a must. And hopefully I can help you explore your kinks and fantasies as well. I love to teach, but I love to learn more. I'm not looking for an open/poly relationship. However if you're bisexual, and want your own female partner I'd be OK with that. I know I can't give any woman the same type of soft touch that another woman can, and I wouldn't want you to go without fulfilling that need, should you have it. I wouldn't require that she join us our play, however I wouldn't say no to possibly working that in, so long as everyone communicates and is totally comfortable. Obviously, as a man I've got a fantasy of two women at once (typical dude, right?), but I understand jealousy and wanting to keep things closed. Last thing I want to do is to hurt my partner.

Full disclosure, I'm not the most experienced Dom. Currently, I'm on a five year dry spell. And there's a lot I need to relearn and rediscover. I've had the opportunity to sleep with partners in that time, but I need an emotional connection before I can get physical. Intelligence is a huge turn on. I may not be "educated" but I am intelligent in my chosen interests. Life is the pursuit of knowledge right? I've been listening to a lot of self betterment audiobooks and podcasts lately. My latest favorite is the 2BeBetter podcast. If you've ever listened, you'll know what I mean when I say I want a relationship like Chris and Peaches. I guess the type of dynamic I seek could be described as "Neo-Traditional". Yes I'd like my partner to serve me, but I also want to serve her. I want to be each other's safety net. Love is work, but it shouldn't be difficult. I want to find my Peaches.

Given the increasingly divisive nature of politics in the last couple of decades, I feel it's necessary to point out that I am a centrist, leaning towards the right. Honestly, I have pretty big disdain of large government. I have my permit to carry, and carry a pistol every day. I love my guns, and I'd hope you'd be at the least ok with having them in the home. You don't have to go shooting with me, but I'd really enjoy going to the range for some friendly competition. Safe to say, if you're far left, we probably won't connect very well. On the same note, I'm also a pagan. Not strict on it, but I follow the teachings of the Norse Gods as a moral compass. So if you're far right, you probably wouldn't like me much. However, I can be friends with almost anyone, and I want someone to challenge my thinking and have healthy civil discourse. So who knows, maybe you're one of the ever decreasing amount of people who can agree to disagree and still remain close.

My long-term goals are to buy land, build a small shop/house and live quietly on a homestead. Farm our own eggs, maybe have a horse or two, or goats. Maybe do some gardening and have plenty of stuff to do together. Ideally, my partner would have her own career. However, if we could make it work financially, I wouldn't mind you staying home to keep up the house. I know you have your own goals and aspirations, and I want you to chase them. I wanna help you be your best self as you help me do the same.

Location wise, I live in the USA. Minnesota, to be more precise. Honestly, I'm not picky about where you are. I will admit that while I don't have any real deep roots set, and I'm not opposed to moving away from Minnesota, I wouldn't like to stay within the USA. That being said, there are over 8 billion people in the world and one of them has to be my person, so why limit myself based on geography? I'm open to a LDR, assuming we meet at some point before too long. All I ask is that we communicate openly, as best we can. I love to talk deeply and at length about anything. Philosophy, history, dreams and goals are my favorite. So dry texts are going cause me to lose interest very quickly. I don't want to always be the one to message first, nor do I want to have to always lead the conversation. Ask me questions, learn all you can about me. I'm very open, and I'd like to think that while I'm admittedly kinda awkward and sometimes shy around women, I'm a pretty interesting man.

SO! IN CONCLUSION! If you've soldiered on and read through this entire rambling mess of nonsense and possible red flags, and you still think you'd like to get to know me more, feel free to shoot me a PM. I look forward to getting to know you and letting you get to know me. I promise, at the very least I'll provide some witty entertainment and thought provoking conversation.