⚠️PLEASE DO NOT MESSAGE ME IF YOU HAVE NOT READ MY ENTIRE POST⚠️PLEASE!!!

🚫 I am not interested in any man under the age of 40… I just moved this to the top since some gentleman felt so inclined to dm me about his agitation 🙄 that he had to read my entire post before he found out I was not interested in doms under 40 however I say this and men in their 20s and 30s still dm me.. 👀

🌟 I may make an exception for a dominant in his 30s..MAYBE.. but if you're in your 20s.. Just no.

🤷🏾‍♀️ Any other criticisms or complaints.. Just move on already!! Jeez!

🍾I am seeking a gentle, affectionate pleasure dom that is unequivocally into breast/nipple play and worship, suckling or ABF, if that's a better term

🎯Extreme tit play does not mean degrading or inflicting unwarranted pain (for me)I am talking about sensual, nurturing, loving..electifcyingly satisfying play.. For example, I love my nipples toyed and played with.. There is nothing more that turns me on than to have my nipples licked, sucked, pulled… 🤤🤤 that is one thing just omg.. I could have an orgasm from that alone.. 💦 Because I am heavily into having my nipples and breasts fondled with, I am interested in starting there.. Have a few suckle sessions and see where it goes from there..

🎯 I am not interested in couples, or poly relationships. 🎯

🎯I am asking you politely, to please read my post in its entirety before reaching out to me. Before we proceed any further: Yes, I am Black and if you have never “been with” a black woman before and are “interested” in “trying it out” or “curious” please do NOT message me! I am NOT here for your entertainment or tourism! 🎯

If you are loving, respectful, compassionate, dominant, communicative, attentive and maybe just a tab bit obsessed with me and my chocolate nipples, please step forward! If you are not the type of man that I am looking for OR you are NOT seeking the type of dynamic I am focused on then do NOT message me. I am being as clear as possible.

A little bit about me:

I would like to first start off with saying that I a NEW NEW member to the community! Well, not officially lol I haven’t been paired just yet. I do not have any experience and I've never had a partner. I am still trying to learn as much as I can. I believe that so far my kink is ABF/ANR.. I haven't explored too much of anything, but I am learning and trying to educate myself properly!

I can’t remember when I knew that I was interested in BDSM. My earliest memory of a dom/sub dynamic was when I saw the movie Secretary starring Maggie Gyllenhaal. I remember seeing that and wanting to be apart of something similar to that…

I just know that I found sex with my ex to be very boring and unfulfilling. I was always left wanting more and I just didn't enjoy it at all. I felt like there was something missing and it truly was something missing.. I was being totally neglected and I didn't like it. I started trying to find ways to make it interesting and pleasing and I found that I was interested in BDSM and wanted to try the dom/sub dynamic. It never came into fruition and my ex and I divorced three years ago this year.

I know that I would want to be a submissive because I am dominant already. I can be a little bit aggressive and in my everyday life I am the dominant one. I have kids and I have them full time and I have to take care of everything.. I’m not sure how I would adapt to being fully dominated by a man outside of the bedroom because I really don't like being told what to do and what I can wear and all that. My ex was controlling and not in a sexy or sensual way and I just don’t want to get mixed up in any of that! I prefer to be dominated in the bedroom. I just want to be the center of attention.. make sure my needs are taken care of. I've never been in a dynamic like that before. I do know that in the bedroom.. I just want to be able to let go…. To fully be able to trust my partner and give myself completely to him. I prefer my partner to be patient, kind, compassionate..a decent human being.. Not an asshole and not a selfish misogynistic bigamist.. Someone who is willing to take this whole thing slow and not force or rush me into anything or make demands of me immediately and haven't a clue when my birthday is.

I don’t want a man to tell me what to do and try to just boss me around and enslave me. My perspective may change with the right Dom, but for now… no! Never!

Sometimes, I don’t want to be in charge of anything.. But since I don’t have that option and maybe if I were presented with it, I probably wouldn't take it..because as much as I don’t want to have control.. I need to have it.. If that makes sense. I feel like the least I could not be in charge of is the bedroom.. but with my needs being met. Idk if that makes sense to you or not.. I’ve found that in the past, especially with my ex-husband in the bedroom things weren’t very satisfying. I don't have a problem with serving.. I've done that for almost 10 years.. My problem with serving was the fact that I felt left out. I was always giving and giving and giving until I had nothing left to give.. My cup was never filled and it was draining.. Mentally and physically.. And I do not want another relationship or dynamic that is only focused on pleasing you, not me. I want to be included too. There's nothing wrong with focusing on you and pleasing you.. In that I can get pleasure knowing that I'm the cause for you feeling amazing.. However on the flip side, I do see something wrong with having no regard for me and my pleasure whatsoever..

I am open to learning and open-minded. I do have hard limits on what I absolutely will not do under any circumstances: I am not into pegging, piss play, humiliation or degradation, anal play on him which includes toys, fingers, and tongue, spitting on me (if you're sucking my nipples and spit on my nipples ok..but not that other stuff), poop play, extreme pain, cumming in my mouth, ATM stuff.. I’m sure there are others.. Those are just at the forefront for now..

I would like to try spanking, I’ve never been, but would like it. I have tried anal with my ex before and he didn't make it very enjoyable. I am into it and would like to build up to being able to fully enjoy anal. I've recently discovered Painal lol and have found interest in trying that. Restraints are ok. I would like that. I do like a little pain.. I like rough sex sometimes and I liked to be talked nasty to. I don’t want to be degraded or humiliated.. just talked nasty to and stuff like that. It turns me on. Calling me names within reason.. Again this is something that I would like to work up to, I am more so interested in being suckled until I beg you to stop and hopefully everything else will fall into play naturally.

I'm interested in finding a partner that could grow IRL and LTR, none of this online Bs! I'm not interested in online domination relationships. I am not interested in unsolicited 🍆 pix nor am I interested in starting something with someone that is 2 hours or more away from my location. I live in Central Illinois not far from Springfield. I need/ want something physical. However, I am not prepared for or willing to just jump right into anything within a matter of hours or days. Let’s talk and get to know one another, seriously… Again, I am new and want to take things slow.

I do not respond well to men who inbox me immediately demanding my submission and servitude. I am not seeking a 1950s relationship at this time, maybe that may change, but my ideal dynamic does not consist of me providing complete and utter attention to my dom especially, if it does not consist with focusing on me! I am only interested in a bedroom-type dom/sub relationship, where my wants, needs and pleasures are laboriously focused on.

At this time I am not interested in the dynamic to spill over into my everyday life. I am not up for relinquishing total and utter control outside of the bedroom at this time.

Trust is very important and building rapport is ideal to creating a great dynamic for me. I love lots of attention and affection that is consistent! It's a shame that I would even have to say that, but some of you out there like to put on a front or show to see if you can get what you want.. Don’t even try it.. I can smell you coming from a mile away!! The moment I catch a whiff of bull, I am out. I will no longer have my time wasted. If you are in a situationship or going through some emotional issues, please do not reach out to me! I am not here to entertain you… PERIOD. While I am seeking a pleasure dom, I will not tolerate any disrespect of any form.

I prefer a male that is experienced, patient, willing to work with my flexibility(more on that if you’re so inclined to know) heavily into breast/nipple play or worship, ANR, (if I am wording it correctly), a mix between Leonadis from 300 and Christian from Fifty shades, affectionate, and willing to teach me. Older gentlemen are very much welcome and ENCOURAGED to reach out ♥️😘!!

Side bar: ☝️🎯 since I am actively looking and veeting doms that are into me.. I may communicate with more than one dom, however once I have my match I will only choose one. Besides, if your conversation is stale.. I lose interest quickly. Please note that I am not lactating! Hit me up and let’s see if we connect! 💋😊