If the title resonated with you, please take the time to read the entire personal before responding. Basically I want a DDlg dynamic only more intense with a feeling of realness rather than role play.

I grew up in a very traditional home. Both of my parents are still married, deeply in love with each other, and instilled principles in me from a very young age that have helped shaped me into the man I am today. Kind and patient, warm and funny, empathetic and introspective, feeling happiest being a dominant yet paternal type of man.

My entire life I have taken care of the people that I love, ultimately knowing my life’s journey will lead to having a family of my own that every ounce of money and drop of emotion will be happily poured into. Every decision that I make, and thought I have, is shaped around who I want to be as a husband and father.

Family is the bedrock of society and my family means everything to me, and if you feel the same way then we are off to a good start! At this point in my life I am not interested in any relationship that is not ultimately headed towards marriage and starting a family, and soon. If you are not ready to get married and start a family within the next year or two max, and are not actively pursuing that in who you talk to and how you think about your future, we will not be a good match. This is a dealbreaker for me. In a perfect world, I will find the right person and go from dating to engaged within 2025.

My whole life this is all I have wanted but finding someone to have it with means, at least for me, not sacrificing to get there. I know what I want and I would rather be patient until I find the right person than rush down the aisle just to check the long awaited box.

My own mother and my friend's wives are fantastic at making a house feel like a home and seemingly little traits like that make a big difference to me. Same goes for a love for baking and cooking. My family has a lot of recipes collected over the years and generations, I want that trend to continue. Seeing my wife chatting with my mom in the kitchen as she learns some of our family recipes, and bonding with her through that, is the kind of fairytale that puts a smile on my face. Homesteading is ideally something you already practice in your daily life and wish to make a bigger part of your life.

What I need is a woman who feels happiest in a submissive, but complimentary, role with me as a dominant but paternal figure. Evolving into eventually something that feels to us like a father and daughter relationship, even if biologically that isn’t accurate. Emotional availability and no walls or barriers keeping you from sharing your thoughts, feelings, and emotions. You have no desire to be my peer. Giving yourself fully to me is a deep rooted need, in exchange for love, protection, and respect. If you have no experience, or minimal, when it comes to dating or sexual exploration... that is even better.

As far as appearances go, I have always been told I am attractive by the people around me and have no issue chatting up strangers to get a number... but the thing is that has never led me to find the 'one' for me, so I am trying this out to see if writing all of this stuff out will work out better. I am tall with a slim/athletic build and slight dad bod vibes, definitely not ripped. If you are into jacked muscular guys, I’m not him. Usually I have a full beard but randomly will trim it down to regrow. Tattoos that can be easily hidden under a suit button up shirt and tie.

Surface level for you, I like short girls in good shape with minimal body fat, perky and plump features, and femininely stylish. Fair skin and light eyes/hair are also preferred but not required. My main consideration is if you take good care of yourself physically, and it shows. I recently hiked a few mountains and would want to, occasionally, go on adventures like that together. Big breasts are great, but I am not going to be put off because your cup size isn’t DD. Perky is important, from your butt to your boobs, and toned legs are always a plus. That thigh gap gets me every time.

Sexual chemistry is very important to me. I would be lying if I said I don't have a high sex drive and need physical, and emotional, intimacy every day. In the past I have had many relationships where I feel like I am giving lots of love and affection without receiving an equal amount in return. Some of these experiences were with women who had reasons to be distant and for others it was not their personality type. All of that helped me realize that I need, not just want, a woman who is warm and carefree with her love. It’s something that gives you joy to express, loving me is another way of loving yourself because every investment in me is an investment I will make in you.

I am posting here specifically because I, quite clearly, don’t want a vanilla relationship. I have not had a vanilla relationship for the past 15 years and as time goes on, I find myself becoming more and more kinky. A big, huge, part of that is a love for the caregiver role and having a submissive girlfriend who sees me more as a father or daddy than a boyfriend or partner.

Pacifiers and diapers are both cute, although I prefer pull-ups over adult diapers that can be comically large in my view. While I want someone who feels little at heart, I also want a little who doesn’t do a lot of baby-talk. If you do not enjoy sexual intimacy when you are feeling little, we probably are not a good match. Tell me about how you feel little, what things and ways you use to express that part of yourself and how it manifests in your own life and in a relationship. If you have no experience, that’s okay! I would much rather teach and train and help someone grow from the ground up than deal with someone who thinks they have it all figured out and is so experienced nothing with me would be new for them.

This is not role play or fantasy for me in terms of the dynamic I want with you. Something I really want, really need, is to know when I get married and am looking into my soon-to-be wife’s eyes that I see her as my daughter and she sees my as her Dad. Not in a “kinky role play” sense but deep down and so real and true that it’s just a fact like the color of my eyes or hands in yours. If any of that is off-putting, we are probably not compatible. However, if reading all that awoke something in you or spoke to a deep need you already have had but never felt comfortable sharing, I understand and want to hear from you.

The TPE dynamic is something else I am interested in that flows together with what I have already described. Getting to the point where “no” isn’t even an option or something you would want to say, because you trust me and know that no matter what, whatever I do is best for you, me, us, our family.

What all this means in practice is a rather long and explicit conversation that I would rather have once we get to know each other. I will only say that being with me requires a completely open mind and willingness to explore and try new and adventurous things. Not just a willingness, but an eagerness. I get off on my partner getting off, I smile when she smiles, and I am looking for a woman who feels the same way about me.

I like the analogy of being painter with a blank canvas. In order to paint the best picture, I need a canvas that is strong, sturdy, clean, and will absorb and hold what I put on it. As a painter, I would be nothing without a canvas to paint on, and you as a canvas would be nothing without the painter and his brushes. Just to reiterate the point, blank means blank. I want to teach you and raise you as if you were my own, which means starting from scratch.

Most importantly, I need you to be my best friend. Someone I can relax with, have deep conversations together, play board games, video games (even if you just watch me play or read a book in my lap or next to me as I do), banter back and forth, and be able to trust an confide anything with each other knowing it is safe to do so no matter what.

Despite me possibly coming off as an overly serious person, I can assure you I am very easy going, albeit intense. You being able to laugh at dry humor or sarcasm, question yourself and the world, be patient and understanding, always assume best intentions, and much more will allow me to best be myself. And hopefully allow you to be yourself. I’m writing all this, which has become much longer than I originally intended, because I want to find YOU. I do want to shape you, mold you, teach you, raise you, etc. but start from the foundation of someone I already love and adore the way they are. I don’t want to take away who you are as a person in order to make you become what I need and want. Although I do believe that part of the relationship dynamic that I seek is to take that canvas I described earlier, perfectly fitted for the painter’s brushes and types of paint, and spend the rest of my life adding brushstrokes until we are old and grey.

Due to some poor experiences in the past, I will want you to verify yourself early on. I have a very public facing life and so my privacy is extremely important to me. I prefer voice calls over texting, but I know life doesn’t always permit that easily. The main thing is daily and frequent communication. Morning and goodnight messages, checking in throughout the day when you can, etc. Being clingy is great. I don’t even mind codependency as long as you are still able to do things well on your own.

If you read all of this, please take the time to write a reply that lets me know you did and you are serious. Also, do you prefer waffles or pancakes?