Greetings, fellow kinksters!
I’m a semi-experienced dominant man looking to connect with a sub for an ongoing dynamic, and more experience and play along the journey to finding them.Â
A bit about me:
I'm solo poly, partnered, RA -- if you don't know what any of that means, respectfully, please do some research as I'm not here to educate you, at least not on polyamory. Let's not waste either of our times.
I'm a creative (writer and reader), lefty, atheist, listen to heavy metal, love horror movies, sci-fi and anime -- yes, I'm a little bit nerdy, go figure. I love good food, a great laugh, kisses and cuddles and intimate times. Open-minded and always keen to explore new ideas, sensations, and experiences.
I'm naturally dominant, and I take pride in being caring and attentive. I have a big heart, but also a dirty mind. I believe in mutual respect, clear and consistent communication, and understanding. I believe in creating a safe space so we can explore in more depth, and that obviously takes time, but I'm also open to play with fun individuals along the way to finding a partner.
On the physical side, I'm about 5'7"-5'8", shaved head, trimmed beard with brown hair going salt and pepper, green eyes, and I live in the Chadstone area.
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What I’m looking for:
Ideally, in order of importance:
- Someone poly who wants a relationship along with the depth and connection of a dynamic. I've tried the casual thing and it's not so much for me.
- Someone who wants a D/s dynamic and is at least very aware of non-monogamy and has no issues with it, as I am firmly in that camp and that won't be changing.
- People who I can connect on a platonic level and want to explore and practice our kinks together and hang out and share a laugh and some yummy snacks, etc.
A submissive who craves structure, yearns for connection, enjoys exploring their boundaries, and has a desire to learn and grow together. Someone who's comfortable communicating, both their needs and limits and in general, because safety and trust are paramount to me. If you yearn for power exchanges, being cared for and disciplined and nurtured and trained in a D/s relationship, we might just click.
I'm not the tallest of people, so someone on the petite side would be fun, but certainly not a deal-breaker or of the most importance to me. I am open to people of all backgrounds and appearances, but I do certainly have a thing for alternative types. If you're at all religious to any great degree, though, we're probably not going to work out long-term.
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Kinks, etc:
Things I am keen to explore further, in no particular order, and by no means a complete list:
- Impact play - I have a cabinet of toys that are itching to be used, specifically for this purpose, the cane, crop, and paddle.
- Restraints - Strap you spread eagle to the bed and then use the above toys, or perhaps the wand, glass G spot toy, dildo, and/or plugs on you? Why certainly. Or perhaps you'd prefer to be hogtied, gagged, and blindfolded? If I give you a choice, that is.
- Shibari/rope - I am looking to pick up this skill and practice it often, so if the idea of being a rope bunny and learning together entices you, wonderful!
- DDbg - I tend to lean toward women who are more middle, and of course babygirl and Princess. Not into age play, diapers, pacifiers, etc, they just don't do it for me, sorry littles. Caregiving and cuteness and guidance and training on the other hand... If said person is a little bratty and might need to be punished with all of the aforementioned accoutrements, or simply my hands and not to mention other body parts, all the better.
- Training
- Pet play - something I'm keen on exploring more
- Lactation - very much on the sexual side of things for me, transformation, training, and of course can go well with pet play.
- Primal play
- Breeding - This one is certainly down the bottom of the list for a reason. I would only be interested in exploring this with a partner, for obvious safety and trust reasons. For my part, I am regularly tested (as is my partner, who is also a consideration) and would expect the same, and I have also had a vasectomy.
If any of this resonates with you, send me a message or chat with a little about yourself and outlining what you're looking for and how we might match, then we can discuss our interests and desires in more detail and get to know one another and take it from there. Once we establish connection, my preference is to have a call and see it that still holds, then set a date for a vibe check meet.
Looking forward to hearing from you, whoever you may be!
Stay safe and have fun!
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