There are some men who think their submission is a gift. Something precious, something given from a place of strength and dignity. Something to be treasured.

I am not one of those men. The girls who come crawling to me are the traumatised, self-destructive, broken kind. The kind who’ve internalised the fact that abuse is the best kind of love— no, the only kind of “love” they’ll ever get. The kind who’ve only ever known unhealthy ways of pleasing men, and can’t imagine living any other way.

I’m not going to promise to fix you. I’m not going to promise to help you grow. That’s not what I want for you. That’s not how you make my cock hard. No, I’m going to affirm all the things you fear about yourself. I’m going to have you crawling, begging, makeup smeared with tears, dignity long forgotten. You don’t deserve anything better, and I’ll make sure you never forget it.

Will I take care of you? Of course, in my own twisted way. I need you to know how special you are after you’ve taken my abuse. To reinforce that I’ll be there to give you warmth, as long as you never stand in the way of what I want, no matter how depraved or degrading. For a girl like you, dignity is overrated. Unnecessary. So when you message me, leave it at the door. You won’t be needing it any more.

About me: 35, tall, successful, intelligent, sadistic. I enjoy photography, tennis, reading, kayaking, and manipulating broken girls by tying them into knots in their heads.

About you: Younger than me, intelligent and engaging (I want you to be able to hold an interesting conversation, and to understand what I’m doing to you), excited for or open to the darker sides of kink.

Non-negotiables: In the spirit of this post, I thought I’d make clear that some things are not open to negotiation. Anal, moderate pain, photos as and when told without any limits, and having your holes stretched, are all not open to discussion. If you message me, you will be doing these and I will not be asking you about it, or accepting any kind of equivocation or resistance to it. As you speak to me, I trust you will come to see that despite my treatment of you, I will also be reasonable and care for you.

If this appeals to you, send me a chat request. Include the phrase “I don’t deserve dignity” in your opening message, so I know you’re actually read this and are worth my time. I won’t be responding to girls who can’t even do that. See you soon.