Thanks for clicking on my post. What I can offer you:
Actual submission: I understand the salient frustration that all dominant ladies have is that thereās a cornucopia of guys claiming to be āsubmissiveā, but actually they just want to indulge their own kinks and top from the bottom. Iām not like that. I truly enjoy connecting with my partner and serving her. I suppose I enjoy submission so much because I'm somewhat of a control freak in the rest of my life. To me, submission is freedom, and I love nothing more than actually making you happy. I like learning exactly what you like, anticipating your desires and making your life better. I like being trained and tailored to your preferences. I appreciate every woman is different. I feel the more I get to know someone and learn how to submit to her specifically, the more she owns me, which feels fantastic. Does that make sense? Itās about the submission and power exchange, and any particular kinks you like to manifest that is exactly that: a manifestation of the underlying power dynamic.
A story from my life: I remember feeling submissive feelings towards femininity when I was only six years old. I was on this climbing frame with some other kids, and the teacher asked everyone to get off. A girl was above me and stepped on my chest in order to climb off. I remember replaying in my mind, over and over again, the moment she looked down on me with her feet on my chest, stopping and making eye contact. I felt so vulnerable, like she was claiming my soul from that moment on. She was using me. I liked being beneath her (both physically and metaphorically) and being useful to her. Afterwards, I had fantasies about serving a "queen". Obviously I was too young to really understand, but I knew I was a different kind of boy to the rest. After that, I remember being drawn to girls in the playground who enjoyed taking control. One distinct memory I have is playing with a girl who held up a toy and said: "you can have it if you kneel and beg me". We both enjoyed the role-play of me being "forced" to serve her. I remember how happy I felt seeing her laugh, and giving her power and control. I liked making her feel powerful, appreciated and feel as if she had a capable boy at her disposal to do all of her bidding.
Real experience: My submissive feelings took a little while to come to terms with as I grew into adulthood, but I am comfortable with who I am now. In my adult life, I've since had several real-life Femdom relationships, and some vanilla relationships with Femdom elements thrown in. Initially, my exes were all vanilla and most just shocked and confused about how selfless I was, in or outside the bedroom. But now I'm more mature, I'm just upfront with them about who I am, hence why I'm here. It saves us both time, which is ultimately the more respectful and mature thing to do. Nowadays, since moving to NYC Iāve been out to fetish parties (though I'm not actively involved in the community). Iāve got experience and know what it takes to be a good submissive. I know myself. Iām not here to waste your time. Iām serious. I'm quite happy to exchange pictures and speak on the phone early on, if you wish. I also have a Fetlife account, though it's not particularly active.
My vanilla life: My life is not a mess. Iāve got it together. Iām only weak to you if you want me to be :) To the outside world, Iāve got an enviable career, prestige, a nice place (I can of course host), well-travelled (Iāve been to about 50 countries and lived in a few). I'm actually British but have lived in the US for about five years now. I enjoy multiple passions including astronomy, art and photography. I'm well-read and find endless joy in learning. I also look after my body (pic included). Happy to share a face picture after we chat or talk on video chat. Most importantly, I can hold a conversation and string coherent sentences together for long periods of time (and I am so sorry the bar is so low from us men, but thatās good for me I suppose).Giving up control and the power that I've accumulated in my day-to-day life is a gift that I want to give away and trust with the right woman. I know she is out there, and will soon claim everything I am as rightfully hers!
Thank you for reading this.
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