Hello, all,

Very long-time lurker here, finally casting my lure out to the proverbial sea. I'm a male, 34, living in Korea (though not Korean). Just saying it upfront because the time difference doesn't work for a lot of people.

I've long been interested in the BDSM space. It started as a curiosity while discussing some old paperbacks and quickly morphed into something I needed in my life. The dynamic of power shifting, the psychodrama of relinquishing control and trusting intimacy...it was all so much more satisfying than anything else I'd rver tried before.

The thing is...I just don't feel like one of those ultra-masculine alpha doms. I don't like being pigeonholed as a DD to a woman's LG (not that I'm against that!), I'd much rather be a giving dom who feels appreciated by helping a woman reach her fullest sexual and emotional potential. If my sub is stressed, I want to do everything in my power to make her feel relaxed. When she wants to explore a profoundly exciting, depraved kink, I want to help guide her through it so her final climax takes her past the Moon and all the way to fuckin' Pluto. And then, of course, to give her all the aftercare she needs.

It reminds me of an old Zizek story, where he describes the ideal date. We pay our dues to the big other, the invisible watcher, by talking dirty and bringing our sex toys to a hotel, she her dildo and I my fleshlight. Then, we stick our sex toys together and, while they're fucking, we have a nice talk over a cup of coffee.

This has already gone on far too long, but then again that might be a very good thing, so, please, do not be afraid to send a little orange envelope (or a chat request, I check those, too.) I have an extremely high disgust threshold, so whatever kink you might be bringing to the table, it'll probably make an excited smile jump across my face.