I posted a similar ad on a specialized subreddit yesterday but so far have been unsuccessful in finding the right person for this.

What I offer is the allure of danger without actually ruining your life. I will threaten to, sure, but the kink isn't everything for me — I always put safety and consent first.

We will set very clear boundaries and discuss expectations from the beginning. Your limits will be respected. Due to the niche and somewhat extreme nature of the kink it is very important to me that both of us approach it very carefully.

This is not and will never be findom — I won't take your money or any gifts. My currency is your trust and vulnerability, your desire to surrender yourself to my command.

Women are welcome. Inexperienced are welcome. As for men... I'm trying to keep an open mind here, but so far 99% of the messages I get from men are either incredibly low effort copy paste junk, or a bunch of incoherent (and frankly quite disturbing) paragraphs about all the things they want me to do to them. DON'T BE LIKE THAT. Be polite. Include the word "blueberry" somewhere in your message so I know you have actually read my post. Communicate to me that you're a sane and reasonable person who doesn't just see me as a kink dispenser. Don't forget to include your name, age and gender in your message, but don't have it be JUST that. I'm looking to get to know you as a person!

Also, unfortunately I'm currently unwilling to accept transgender folk or sissies. Nothing against you people, you're just not my type and attraction is something I can't just force and however shallow it may sound, something as trite as this is still important to me. And no one over 36 years old please.

If this post is still up it means I'm still looking. I read every single message. Thank you for your time.